A few months ago, I finally admitted to myself that I was bisexual. I really want to come out to a very good friend on Oct. 11 (National Coming Out Day), however I don't know if I'll come to regret it or not. I know for a fact that she'll accept me, she even wants me to be LGBT, but I don't know when I should tell her. There are times where I really want to tell someone, but then there are other times that I just really want to keep it to myself. This is why I'm a little reluctant to tell anyone. Is this normal, or is this just a sign I'm not ready? Did this happen to you, and if so, did you later come to regret it? Thanks :icon_bigg
Welcome to EC! And now we can haz cheezburger! If you take the longview on coming out, it's extremely rare to find somebody who regrets coming out. They might regret the circumstances, or wish the person had reacted better, but they don't regret the actual "coming out" process a few years after it happened. You don't say how old you are, but I'm getting a vibe from your post that you're at least in your late teens. And I'd say at that point, you're probably in a pretty secure place to come out. It IS common to want to hold back telling somebody. Even if you're sure, even if you think the person will be supportive. Why? Because there's a sense of finality. If you REALLY wanted to (and hopefully, you don't), you could delete the porn from your computer (say), and just start living as a straight guy. But if you come out, that gives it a "reality". It no longer is just something that lives in our head - it's something that's real and known to (part of) the world at large. And that can be a scary step. But it's also a very necessary one, and one that's often very liberating. Lex
I was actually thinking about coming out to a friend. But there were some things that I worried about: 1) Would he blab? Will you friend tell other people without your permission? If so, and you decide to come out make sure she understands that she can't tell anyone about your sexuality with you permission. 2) If my family find out then I'll get kicked out. What's your family attitude towards the LGBT? Would they support you? If not you should make sure you'll be OK without them. If your friend will support you, then come out in your own time. Only do it when you feel comfortable. It doesn't have to be on a specific day. Good luck with anything. If you want to talk contact me.
true once you're out there is no going back, it's very rare to find someone who regrets coming out. its scary to come out because its a big change and change is scary. Don't think about the bad side think about the good.
Well I actually don't have to worry about this problem anymore, because I'm officially out! (!) The topic came up today, and I couldn't lie anymore. So I spilled, and now she knows that I'm bisexual. Thanks to everyone for the advice, though :icon_bigg
