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Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by bananas, Jun 17, 2011.

  1. bananas

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    so im going to the movies for my 15th bithday and im hoking up with this really hot guy but the thing is ive never hooked up and im scared im going to make a fool of myself! how do you hook up???????:icon_sad
     
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    Hooking up and going out are two COMPLETELY different things. Which are you doing?





    Oh, and welcome to EC! :grin:
     
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    ok, as its already been said hooking up and going out are completly different. Going out as in just a date just relax, and be yourself. HOOKING UP is something that at 15 shouldnt even be happening just yet. i know its tempting because "its the cool thing to do n everyone talks about it" but trust me its better to wait. all the good things in life are worth waiting for just remember that.
     
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    Im hooking up with the guy :icon_bigg
     
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    So you're just gonna go have sex with the guy?
    I don't think you're gonna make a fool of yourself if you've already agreed that you two are just gonna have sex... how do you do that anyways? Just walk up to him and be like "YOU, ME, MY 15th BIRTHDAY, SEX, MY HOUSE, BE THERE!"?
     
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    i don't think shes just gonna have sex with the guy...where im from hooking up could mean anything from making out to sex and anything in between. I'm assuming since your going to the movies you guys plan on making out lolol

    Basically only kiss him if you wanna, and there is no how to hook up put your mouths together and let your brains take care of the rest XD. Do only what you want, obviously, and don't give in to pressure.

    Also, if you were planning on more than making out maybe u should think it over a little bit before you just go on and do that lolol
     
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    I don't see how she's planning to hook up though, it's really confusing me...
     
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    i mean likeee idk its what people do i guess lol...girls overthink everything (no offense bananas lol) so she probably wants to plan it out before she does it lol.

    bananas when you see this help us out =P lol
     
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    If she just called it a date, then I would understand, but it seems she has other things in mind.
     
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    #1 hooking up in my language is makeing out
    #2 i dont plan on haveing sex at my age im pretty sure im too young!
    #3 Thanks for the advice but im just scared hes gonna say im a bad kisser :confused:
     
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    So, first post, figured I'd jump right in ;] Don't worry about being a bad kisser. to be perfectly honest he's probably just as nervous as you are and doesn't want to screw up either. If it turns out to be a bad kiss, no big deal. If he's a cool guy, then he won't care. If he's not such a cool guy, then I'd dump him on the spot. :]

    Hope this helped a bit hun <3
     
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    OH, don't even worry about that, if you've kissed before, then you've nothing to worry about. and if you're fairly new then you will conform to the way that he likes it because you will basically do what he does
     
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    As it was said above, don't worry about him thinking that you are a bad kisser. If it is your first time, you can tell him that you are new to it.

    However, make sure that you draw your boundaries and only do what you feel comfortable with.
     
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