While I've always kind of known, I think I'm really realizing I'm bisexual. I'm so confused about this-- shouldn't I have known earlier? I don't know how to deal with this on a personal level, nor do I know how I would even tell some of my friends or family. I have told one of my friends (he recently told me he was gay, so I was comfortable telling him). What do I do? Where do I even begin?
Well, first off, when you suspect or realize that you are bisexual, there doesn't have to be a certain time when you're supposed to know. I think it depends on experience, or on how accepting you are of new lifestyles. telling the family, you kind of have to be confident in who you are. You have to decide for yourself when your ready to tell a person, depending on what you know about them. I'm not very out myself, though, so.... I hope I could've helped a little.
Well I'm 21 and have always known I wasn't quite straight but im still struggling to accept it all and figure out the finer details XD, so no you really shouldn't have known earlier, I mean you may have but it just didnt work out that way for you. Dont really have any advice for dealing with it all on a personal level as clearly things are working for me lol =P. But about coming out, first ask yourself if its what you really want to do and if so who are the most important people in your life? and start with them. Friends or siblings tend to be the easier ones to come out too and are a good starting point.
Welcome to EC! Let me play one-up on you really quick. You might not have noticed that you were turned on by both men and women until recently, but I can understand that to a degree. So long as there were guys who were interesting you, it'd be a bit easier to ignore the women who were. But I didn't realize I was GAY until I was 20. As in "it's not women that turn me on - it's guys". And seriously, you'd think THAT would be pretty apparent to a horny teenager, right? But sometimes it just takes time for these things to become apparent. What do you do now? First step - just get used to it. No need to tell the parents or post on facebook. Just try it on for size. Indulge in some fantasies about other girls, feel free to watch porn of whatever stripe, and just become accustomed to "being bisexual". Once you get used to it, you can move on to telling other people. Lex
Hey welcome to EC, I didnt work out I was gay till I was about 26 so dont worry you are not alone. As Lex said you dont have to tell everyone straight away, just spend sometime getting used to the idea, its scary but it will all work out.
I'd agree with the all the advice given here. I've had thoughts about bisexuality for a while, about five years in fact, but it didn't really hit me head on until I engaged myself in relationships at college...so it really did take a while. More than anything, though, I had to become confident in my bisexuality before I could even think about telling others. And I'm still not completely out. My really close friends around me know, but my general policy is to remain mute unless someone asks- then I won't deny it. But don't be afraid to take your time here, this is really all about YOU. Tell people when you feel ready, and know that any judgement or questioning people pass really shouldn't be taken, because again, this is all about you. Move at your own pace. It helps though, if you have someone to confide in (which it seems like you do) as you move along in this journey of figuring yourself out. Best of luck! I really do hope my advice and the advice of others is helping!
