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Is he romantic material? I like him sorta but does he like me?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by don29002, Jul 3, 2011.

  1. don29002

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    Guy 1 -- So a senior in my high school--who just graduated--named Matt is a good friend of mine and I would go to his lunch table and sit with his friends and tell funny stories and jokes and him and his friends loved me for it.
    But I noticed him staring at me frequently while I'd be telling my stories. Every day.
    And he'd pull me close to him with his thumb touching my chin, which I thought was romantic in a way.
    And around Christmas time he told me "All I want for Christmas is you" and I smiled at him. Considering the fact that he has a girlfriend--named Paige, and shes going to college in Maryland in the fall.
    His girlfriend barely noticed but I was friends with her too so I guess I got her approval lol

    So was he joking or serious?


    Guy 2 -- I have a friend from school named Brad. He used to always ask out girls every month but they would break his heart. And theres this one girl he likes named Lacey who every straight guy at my high school likes, but she's single.
    Every day I used to see every guy shout out "Oh my God it's Lacey!" and they would try and wave to her from our class. And my teacher would sit there and laugh at them. I would too. (Since she's mean to me.)
    Also about Brad he's in my English class, Biology, History, Lunch period, and my Algebra class. In English class he sang to me once. He literally got out his seat, and RAN to my desk. (I sit in a row of 2 desks by myself so thats why) And naturally people did stare at us. Back then I was not into him at all--I thought he was stuck up; and still do somewhat--but it turns out he likes me.
    3 weeks ago, me and Brad were in the halls walking alone together. That's when he said this to me: "Donald when you do that thing (widen) your big beautiful brown eyes you do it like Ms. Nava does it." (Ms Nava is our English 1 teacher)
    I think he definitely likes me but I only maybe 10% out of 100 like him back only because I hate his personality--his kiss up type ways.
    In English once we were reading Romeo and Juliet at our desks out loud. Every week Ms. Nava would assign different people various parts. Every week one thing that didn't change: Brad wanted a part badly so he could do his impressions, sing, and/or try to tell jokes.
    And every day if he did an impression while reading his lines, Ms. Nava would yell at him. And secretly, in my head, I'd cheer victory.
    Brad's also on the track team and football. And the teacher I mentioned earlier is also my Biology teacher and the Boys' Track coach. He's always dissing Brad for his puny size--for track, but in person and up close he's tall.
    And know the common signs of how a guy likes a girl? Messing with them, teasing them, flirting, etc? Brad does those things to me. In front of his friends. He's a performer putting on an act to make it seem like since his friends bully and talk trash about me--and its true, because I came out in May in school and everyone knows--then this might be the thing he should do to fit in.
    He'd be all in my face, making me flinch, trying to make me be scared of him, etc.
    But in history class once my straight friend Dean (who I've told I have feelings for him and still do but of course he's not interested but he's in the closet) asked Brad if he's bi like me, naturally he got defensive because he was asked directly and he said he "likes girls 100%. I'm not bisexual, I'm not gay, I'm straight!"
    Well I know his secret But I am not telling anyone.
    And anyone who puts up such a mask and makes a 10 minute statement--in my opinion--is either in the closet, in denial, or LGBTQ. Just saying lol
     
  2. Bart93

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    It could be that he is gay, or it could be that he just likes to mess around.

    I wouldn't go as far as to say that he likes you, in that way, if he himself has not told you. I have a friend, my best friend, who used to do those types of things to me in class, but much more personal like grabbing me and rubbing up against me.

    He is straight, I have to deal with it. Now, the second guy you are talking about may or may not be gay. The only way you can be sure is to ask, and as you have already stated, he is "100% straight" and has no intention of coming out of the closet any time soon, if he is in one.
     
  3. don29002

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    About Matt I have a major crush on him and I've been trying to also tell him that I wanna be closer as friends. Once I asked him if he wanted to drive me home [since I like him as friends and more] but he said he had detention that day. And another time I asked him if he wanted to come over my apartment--and even meet my mom (problem is my mom doesn't think I'm bi and I lied to her and said Matt's a girl) but he said he was going to a kid's house that weekend. So nothing happened from those experiences.
    What are some great things to do when we're together?