im a lesbian. well actually, more like 98% sure. some things i do make me question my sexuality. 1. i enjoy straight porn. 2. sometimes i flirt with guys. 3. i know when boys r cute. is this normal? can anyone relate? i guess i can justify what i do.. 1. i dont really watch the guys during straight porn. just the girls. is that weird tho? 2. i think i have a hard time separating friends from crushes. for example, im friends with this one boy who i flirt with even though im confident he is gay 3. i think i admire boys.. more like paintings. i can admire their beauty, but its not like i ever want to f*ck them. i dont look at boys butts or want to know what their dicks look like. i look at their muscles and face to see if they r handsome. reading back over this, i realize i just needed to type it out. i would appreciate any opinions/advice you have to offer me though. especially about the straight porn. if im a lesbian, shouldnt i be watching lesbian porn? girl on girl videos dont really do anything for me.
I know where you're coming from. On the Kinsey scale, I wouldn't classify myself as a full 6 (which is completely gay). I would say I'm about a 4.5-5 which is still pretty gay. :lol: When I watch porn, I focus on the woman (or women), because I get turned on by sounds and if she's having a good time. Sometimes I tease or joke with guys, but I've learned to not give them the wrong idea over the years since coming out, because I don't actually want them to take their clothes off and... y'know... lol I have lesbian friends who watch man on man porn, or straight porn because they feel it's more real and not fake lesbian porn made by men. I mean... straight guys watch porn, but they don't focus on the dude, right? (if they're straight). I can know when a man is attractive, but I don't feel sexually attracted to him.
thanks for your response! i totally agree with you. i wouldnt classify myself as a full 6. very close, but not completely. maybe a 5. or even 5.5 if thats allowed. yeah, lesbian porn is so so fake. makes me mad haha. id probably like it if the girls werent so plastic and the sex wasnt so unrealistic. you like the sounds? i always put it on mute (so no one can hear whats going on in my room, but also because the noises seem fake to me as well). although i really enjoy hearing the noises in real life. i also think im getting better at not flirting with guys and keeping it on a jokey friend level
Yea, it took a bit of thinking, but once I was comfortable with my sexuality, I learned to the difference between joking and flirting with men and only joke or tease them now (if they're good friends of mine). Sexuality is a complex issue and different for everyone. Enjoy the ride. I know I have. I've been out for just over two years and I'm still learning new things.
I've never watched porn, but I find myself flirting with women in a non-sexual way and I know when women are cute, but I'm definitely not attracted to them in any way.
i feel the exact same way... dont worry its normal... i do agree that lesbian porn is really fake literature is better!
1. I don't watch straight porn, but I totally get off on straight erotica. 2. I flirt with girls all the time. It's a lot easier for me flirt with girls than guys. I don't think any of them take it seriously, though. At least, I hope not. Certainly the older women I flirt with don't. 3. I totally know when girls are hot. And I appreciate feminine beauty. I just don't normally want to tap it.
I get it.. like, I notice something like, dang, that guy is really good looking! But it doesn't give me butterflies or make me want to be intimate with him. I kind of think of it like, ooh, that dog is really cute and nice to look at, if that makes sense. >_> [/fail analogy]
That's a perfect analogy. Sexuality is to do with sex, and not really anything else. If you don't want to have sex with males but do with females, then ergo you are a lesbian. You can go to an art museum and say "Wow, that painting is really nice looking" but that doesn't mean you want to have sex with it. Some people find it useful to separate romantic feelings from sexual; e.g. someone can be homosexual and biromantic, or heterosexual and homoromantic.
