ok i to start off with I'm still not really sure what i am in regards to sexuality I'm pretty sure I'm not gay coz I'm still defiantly attracted to guys but I'm not sure I'm straight as i have started to kinda find myself attracted to girls id say still guys a lot more so idk... im kinda scared to say I'm bi for fear that people will think im just doing to to try be 'cool' coz like over the past 2 or so years it seems that pretty much all the 'cool' girls at my school have come out as bi and i feel like even though i know that its not bacause of this that i feel this way but my head (yes its a tad messed up) keeps telling me that maybe this is the reason... so it makes me kinda scared to say it coz like if i think this in my head what if other people think the same... also i kinda feel if i say in my head (or on here) that im bi then i feel like im going to end up feeling like everyone knows and is judging me...
Don't worry about labeling yourself at the moment. Take it slow and just go for who you like. Think about past crushes, why you liked that person, if they were a girl or a guy, etc. but don't dwell on them too much as sexuality can change. Some people would advise you to experiment with both sexes; I don't know if this is a good idea or not, and it also depends on your age. If you can't or don't want to experiment, think about who you watch in porn, and why. Have you heard of the Kinsey Scale? To be bi you don't have to have equal attractions to both sexes; you can lean straight or gay. I am bi but I think of boys and girls differently; I prefer girls sexually but boys romantically. When I figured out that I was bi I was afraid that I was acting really gay (I don't, at all) and that people would figure out I wasn't straight. I watched everything I did to see if it reflected my sexuality. In the end I realised that I didn't act like a lesbian, nor were people watching to see if I did, nor did they care. Don't try to come out at this point; wait until you are more sure of your sexuality and have accepted yourself. It can help to talk to someone in real life though, maybe a very close fried, older mentor, or an LGBT person you know. After I came out at my school a lot of the girls started joking that they were bi. They pretty much stopped when I told them I didn't like it when they did that, though. When you do come out, tell people you trust and know will take it seriously first and then when you are out to everyone those people can confirm that you are serious.
