[This does have some pretty descriptive things pertaining to sexual matters so if you are easily offended or something, please don't read.] I know this is probably a question asked all to much but I also know for each one, the situation is always different. Anyway, I am a 18 year old guy, and I am confused to the fact if I am bisexual or gay. Every time I think I figure it out, something happens, or I think happens that makes me think otherwise. I look at women and I can think, "yeah, she is really hot or really pretty", but I never think, "OMG, I would so nail her." It just never has happened. I really want to but it just doesn't happen. Now when it comes (warning, graphic description) to "getting up" it will happen pretty much anything sexual, gay or straight. It just happens faster for gay. Straight being between girl and guy. I don't know though if I get it from the fact it is something sexual or from the guy. BTW, lesbian sex does nothing for me at all. Know lots of straight guys that they say that gets them up quick. If honestly given the choice to looking at a hot guy naked vs. a hot woman...I would choose the guy. Even though I know this about myself in terms of sexual facts, I am constantly thinking, "well, I can connect with women emotionally, so maybe the sexual side will develop as time goes." But then the more I think on it the more I think I realize that emotional would be as deep as it could go. However, I mean, the thought of having sex with a woman isn't like a disgusting thought, it just is kind of a neutral thought. In terms of sexual encounters, the most I have had is making out with a girl and thinking the entire time that she had WAY to much make-up and lip gloss on which by the way tastes awful. When it comes to who am I naturally drawn to in terms of who do I find myself staring at without really knowing it would have to be guys. Now, some would say -especially after that last statement- it is pretty obvious that I am gay. I just can't help hoping that I will be sexually attracted to women. I know this is probably useless, but as I head to college this next month, I guess I hold off hoping I find this amazing girl that changes it all around for me. I know this is a naive hope but it brings me some comfort, not positive why. A lot of people say not to be concerned with labels and I agree to an extent. But when it comes to trying to come out, this "labeling" is needed in order to tell others. And even when it comes to telling your parents. I mean, if you tell your parents that you are unsure or one and then change, they are not going to take you seriously or blow you off. Anyway, I would really appreciate it if someone could help or offer advice to kind of show me some direction to go in. And again, Thank you.
I would say you'e bisexual with a preference for women, but I don't really know. As far as coming out, you don't have to come out as gay or bi, just say "I like guys." and that leaves it open for you to label yourself however you want to later.
Well, I can acknowledge that a women is very attractive, and would probably qualify as hot, but that doesnt mean I am attracted to them, or sexually arroused. on that point, I would say that it doesnt mean you are bi. As for being turned on by porn between a guy and a gal, I would be more quick to conclude that your more stimulated sexually by the guy, since you said gay male porn gets you up faster. If I found a guy in straight porn appealing in some way, that would probably stimulate me, but I get nothing from naked women, or women doing anything sexual. I think if women dont stimulate you, it is probably safe to lean towards the gay column. but dont feel a need to rush to label yourself.
I'd say gay or leaning gay. I'm bi or kinsey 2 and girls I instantly feel aroused over. Sometimes guys trigger the same thing, but it's a lot more rare. There are also ebbs and flows between the two. Some days I reach a kinsey 4 or sometimes. Basically being bi is being somewhere in or near the middle while still having a feeling of being aroused by both at times with a slight preference. I also operate more heteroflexible. Was at a LGBT fundraiser, a relativity attractive guy hit on me but my eyes were only for the hot bi girl in the room. Unsure what the gay side of biness is like, but that's my perspective from the below kinsey 3 area.
I am in the EXACT same situation than you are!! literally, its as if I wrote this down, you couldnt have explained it better, I know Im being of no help at all, but I just wanted you to know youre not alone (something I just found out after reading your post)
That not how it works! It seems like all your "attraction" toward girls are because you want to have the "normal" existence of having romantic/sexual relationships with the opposite sex. But you can't simply hope or want to have a sexual orientation, it's inherent within you. I'd say you're most likely gay. And even now in your confused state, I think deep down you (will) realize that and the sooner you accept it the better off you will be.
Wow. This post describes me. Virtually every word, it's exactly where I'm at now. I'm still confused too, just wanted to say you're not alone.
well, I must say. Its always nice to hear that your not alone. I know it is probably such a simple phrase but has some very comforting effects.
