Gym problem

We've already had a thread like this, and like I said in that thread, why try to stop it. If I was in your position I'd look and if I get a boner just say "It's natural".

Some advice from the other thread was "Don't look and try to think of dead kittens". Which would probably be better advice than mine.

 

Try to get a locker near unattractive people or away from everybody (in a corner?). Doing so will limit the people who you see and who could arouse you.

 

You just need to disconnect from your body while in the uh... troubling situation. :icon_bigg I know that sounds weird but it actually can be done. Basically practice on focusing on something else, something that is very non-sexual. Seriously I would think about my grandmother because (happily *giggle*) my feelings for her were VERY non-sexual.

You could also jerk off beforehand if that's possible. And I suppose if possible look at a bunch of porn of guys so you can kinda get your head wrapped around what you're going to be seeing. Obviously seeing pictures and being right next to naked guys is quite different but on the other hand, most of the guys in porn are going to be more impressive looking than what you'd see in a locker room.

I know it seems difficult (and I'm sure it's harder at 15) but you just have to develop kinda a non-sexual bubble around yourself and essentially train yourself about when it is and isn't okay (for you) to have a sexual reaction to a situation. Because it's not like any of the possible stimulation is going to be active--no guys are gonna be touching you and TRYING to arouse you--so really what's going to be happening in your head is you're going to be hearing/seeing/smelling things and then your brain is gonna react to that. And while none of us have complete control over how our brain reacts to things, we have a lot more say than you might imagine. You kinda just have to shortcircuit the reaction that might happen without any active intervention on your part.

It's related to how you can see a guy and be like "he looks cute" and then if you let yourself, you can look at him and be "he looks HOT" and all of a sudden what's going on with you is a very different reaction. You can allow yourself to react a lot more strongly to someone in certain circumstances and, vice versa, you can also prevent yourself from reacting really strongly, too.

Along with all this, plenty of other guys--whether they're gay or straight--are going to be worrying about the same thing, so you won't be alone in worrying. I don't know... you could picture everyone in their underwear, because at least then they'd be wearing clothes. :lol: Or really, picture them wearing the dorkiest hats you can imagine. Because dorky is usually not at all sexy. Just set up a loop of something very unsexy running in your head and that should do it.

And if it doesn't... just remember unwanted erections happen to all guys, so if it happens to you, it's a totally natural, normal thing. There's nothing inherently bad about reacting that way to naked guys. Or, during your teen years, to just about anything. Just tell any guy who bugs you you have an excess of testosterone and even thinking about broccoli makes you hard so sorry to disappoint them but it's not because they're hot in a gay way.

Or simple reversal, too: "Oh, so you're checking me out, huh? Like what you see?" Sadly the best defence against that kind of attack is to turn it back on the attacker. Because seriously, standard guy code is that you studiously ignore other guys' genitals, so someone making a big deal of another guy being hard is admitting he's taking interest in that guy's dick, and well, that's really not cool, dude. :icon_bigg Unless it's one of those "man I'm so fucking wasted... and shit I'm so horny" situations that somehow get conveniently forgotten the next day during the hangover. "Dude I was so fucked up last night I don't even remember what fuckin' happened!"

But yeah, ideally you develop the non-sexy bubble of protection. Prevention, ounce, pound, cure... you know the drill.

 

Don't worry about it.

My best advice.

I've found the more you worry about it, the more you're aware of it when the time comes and the MORE LIKELY YOU ARE to have a "reaction".

If you don't anticipate it or think of it as a big deal, most likely you won't be focusing on them and their bodies. Don't worry about it, and if something happens it's easy to joke it off ("sorry about that guys, it's a bit of a show-off") if someone makes a comment, or if no-one comments don't say anything. I bet 90% of guys have gotten "up" at some point in a changing room, and would probably be as embarrassed as you if YOU get "up".

 

When I had Gym in middle school and 9th Grade, I would change as quickly as possible and have my head down at all times. I only turned my head or looked up if someone called my name, which was very rare.

We never took showers since there were not enough for everyone and we had no time to take a shower, dry off, get dressed, pack our things, and go to our next class, so I'm thankful for that. What made things even better is that most of the guys were unattractive, so nothing caught my eye. LOL

For the shower situation, I'd suggest you take a very quick shower and never check out a guy unless you know them well enough and you can joke around with your 'sight seeing'. LOL Is your shower out in the open or are there walls or curtains blocking your view? If showering is optional, I'd suggest not exerting yourself so much when you're playing so you wouldn't have to take a shower.

Don't worry, there will probably be other guys -gay, straight, or bi- reacting to a naked body. Just make sure your sneaks at guys are not too noticable. Good luck!

 

Sorry, just made me think of that. :lol:

Everyone has good advice. This is my first year exposed to the naked body sort in gym, but I'm a girl and at least we're not quite as noticable when we're checking people out. From what I've heard from other people though is as long as you don't concentrate too much on the guys around, chances are you can get by with minimal embarrassment.

 

dont worry about it and what i did in the locker room was think of the most unattractive thing imaginable and run with that.

 

Lemme offer up a quick temporary solution that may work wonders: Jerk off mornings before gym class? For me it'd make me less horny and less likely to get a boner.

 

Temporary solution to a 2.5 year old problem?

I think "next semester" has come and gone.

 

Remember that your body reacts down there because of higher blood flow to that part of your body. Why does that happen? Because you're not thinking as much so rather than increased blood flow to your brain it goes to your....dick. So just try and think of tons of things and it may work better for you...and yes...Martha Stewart naked on a cold day does work.

 

OK, so, were there any cute bods to look at? lol