I'm having a bit of an issue. I know that I'm attracted to both men and women, (I don't actively identify as bisexual) but sometimes I go through stages where I'm more attracted to one of the two. For a while I thought I was gay, which really wasn't a big deal. But a few months back I thought I might only be straight. That maybe this whole time I was only attracted to women and I was just confused or something. I'm not sure if this sort of fluctuation in sexuality is normal. And I'm wondering if it has to do with my own weird gender identity or something else entirely. So some advise would be helpful.
This happens to me as well. Being bisexual does not mean that you are attracted to both sexes equally. Sexuality is fluid, so it can easily change over time. It takes awhile to get used to these swings, sometimes they still surprise me.
Back before I was more "out to myself" that used to happen a lot. Now I think I lean a lot more towards men then women, and I haven't "fluctuated" as much. Even though I think there's likely a touch of bi in me, I prefer to identify as gay when I come out to somebody. Its actually really common for bi people's attractions to fluctuate. As far as your own personal identity, I think you should at least be open and just kind of go with the flow. As for what you want to tell other people, that's up to you, and if you find it easier to tell someone you're gay then explain all this, that's your choice and you shouldn't feel guilty about it.
I think that sexuality is very fluid, especially in bisexual people. What you're feeling is completely normal. I have a few friends who are bi, and the same thing happens to them. I do not think that bisexuality mean that you have to be equally attracted to both sexes. I would say just go with what you're feeling at the moment, and don't feel the need to always put a label on yourself. Like Jon said, just go with the flow.
I think it just depends on the people you are surrounded by, sometimes I find I am attracted to guys more than usual and same thing with girls, it all depends on where I am, what kind of mood I am in and such. This is normal in bisexuality, sometimes you can't just make up your mind but that's the beauty of it, you don't have to
Yeup, happens to me often. Even within a really short period of time (like a week or so) I'll go back and forth a lot. It doesn't bother much though, like other people said just go with the flow (as cheesy as this sounds).
I also used to have phases where I would be completely into guys, but then become completely into girls the next month. As most are saying, don't be hesitant to explore your sexuality even if you cant quite get a bead on what it is. The more time you spend listening to your body, the more you'll get to know it!
Hormones also plays a very big role in situations like this. Certain times you hormones will go astray, influencing your mind and your heart, who you are attracted to or not as well as a host of other emotions and feelings. It's the chemical imbalances that causes all these fluctuations. To help on this part it is imperative to follow a more natural healthy diet. So if you eat too much of MacDonald or any other fast food restaurant foods you can expect your hormone levels to go off the charts and that in turn causes confusions of your feelings. Don't get me wrong I am not saying eating the wrong food can influence whether your gay, bi or what ever. All I am saying is that hormone imbalances can also cause this fluctuations and to keep your hormones to a more acceptable levels it is good to follow a healthy diet. Even though you eat healthy, this may also happen. If it is driving you off the wall, ask a pharmacist for a natural supplement that will help to keep your hormone levels in check. Then you can better determine your sexuality without your hormones influencing your decisions.
It is definitely normal to fluctuate. I am more into women at the moment than I have been the last few months, and this is only me, but I find sometimes my 'switch is flipped' when I see a particularly attractive person. A few months ago I was almost exclusively into men, until I saw this GORGEOUS girl at a party it was like ZING - THAT's right, I lika da ladies. Oh man I can't stop thinking about her... However I also feel it ceases to matter so much when you are in a relationship, because every relationship goes through physical/sexual ups and downs. I have a boyfriend, and I do feel bad that at the moment I'm finding women exceptionally attractive, but I still enjoy sex with him, because I love him. Just follow your heart, and your loins will join you.
