(( I'm Gonna Write Half Of My Life Story Down So everybody Has A Better Understanding of who I Am)) When I Was In 7th grade I met my first 2 best friends I Ever had and they were girls. So the more I hung out with them The less I Become Social to other guys (I Would Still talk to them and stuff but not as much) . Then Around My 8th Grade year I began to learn to talk really fast and Snap on Ppl and be a little bit more stand offish , I Was always Hanging Around Girls And Would Make "Gay" Gestures and Comments On Purpose to make them laugh. So this year Was my 9th grade year and I Was Officially Rumored to be gay. I Liked Lady Gaga and My Personality was A lot different for other guys , So No Guys would ever talk to me Unless they asked me if I Was Gay.So I Gotten used to talking to women with more Charisma & More comfortably about Sex,T.v,Music, Basically Anything . (I Was talking to Females everyday) But I Gotten so used to talking to only girls for more than half the school year. So when guys do try and hold I Conversation I Can't Look them in the Eyes And feel out of my Place talking to them and I even Make Sure There Talking To Me! Anyways When I do Talk back to them it's with an uncertain voice and quick replys.
Yeah I'm Uncomfortable talking to Other Guys , And Sometimes I Think I Might Be Attracted To Them , But Most Of The I Wonder What They Think Of Me While I'm Talking To Them
First of all, welcome to EC, this is a fantastic place to discover more about yourself, and to explore all of the possibilities that "might be" Now, have you taken the time to experiment, or question? Like watching gay porn and seeing if that feels good or not, which if it does it will feel like thats totally right for you, and it will scare you shitless. My advice for you is to stick around and do some more soul searching. We can give you the tools to help, but we can not actually do the work for you in order to "help" you. You must help yourself, and we will be here to support you all the way; gay, straight, bi, trans, purple, alien, or whatever.
Instead of just answering them when they talk to you then staying silent, try asking them a question. This will allow you to pay attention to them instead of having to worry about what you are going to say. Not only will this keep the conversation going, it will let them know you are interested in talking to them. It doesn't have to be anything much; in fact most of the time you can just ask them the same question they asked you. It's understandable that you're a bit uncomfortable when someone first approaches you that you don't know, most people are atleast a little bit. But the more you talk to them, the more comfortable you'll become. Just keep the conversation simple to start with.
@Tyler I Haven't Experimented , But I Do Have a Lot Of Opportunities to do So . But I Have questioned The Possibility That I Might Be Bi. But Thinking Hard About It I Couldn't Have A Sexual Relationship with Another Boy. ---------- Post added 10th Aug 2011 at 01:35 AM ---------- I've Known Some Of The People That Try To Talk To Me though out My Whole Middle School Years And I Still Have Trouble Talking To Them
Hi and welcome! Well ask yourself this question... are you sexually attracted to girls and boys or just one of the genders. What might also help you answer this question is the following: (I have posted it before, but in your situation i will post it again) Go somewhere... to the sea, the woods, park or any other place where you will not be disturbed and think for yourself. Visualise for yourself who you wish to spend your life with? Who do you prefer to cuddle with? Who would you prefer to explore places and things with? Who would you prefer to hold you when you feel sad? Who do you prefer to be there when you need him/her? Who do you ant to have fun with? Who do you want to make love with? It is important when you work though these questions, close your eyes and visualise for yourself before you answer them. You can only answer GUY or GIRL. No names, no persona no nothing else yet. By keeping the answers to either the two helps you to work through them faster. Once you have answered all these questions then you can think of a name or persona. here it will differ to your particular situation, if you can answer both GUY & GIRL then you are bi, if not well your answer will speak for itself. Hope this will help you in finding yourself.
Agreeing with TyRawr here. Even if you can't imagine yourself with a man, you could still be bi, just not open to the idea yet. This time about 15 months ago, I wouldn't have even thought of such a thing. But you should know that just because you have female riends, it doesn't mean you're bi/gay. It would however, stand to reason if you were.
Things are still very out in the open for you, GovermentHooker. I wouldn't take your affinity towards friendship with girls and your nervousness talking to guys too much to heart, It's only normal. Using myself as an example: All through middle school and high school it was the exact opposite for me. All of my friends were guys, and I became used to talking with them. I rarely spent time with girls, and when I did there was always an issue holding a conversation. What you're experiencing is just a lack of confidence talking to the same sex, and that's completely alright! In short - new experiences may seem daunting at first, but stick with it and soon you'll be able to comfortably communicate with the same sex. It doesn't mean you're gay or bi because you have trouble doing so. Since you seem to be at the point where you are open to learning about your sexuality I would suggest exploring some of those paths as they arise - but remember, there is no need to commit. Best of luck and let me know how it goes -Phillip
