Questioning my Gay-ness

Physical response doesn't change your sexual orientation, especially if you are not turned on.

The act of kissing and cuddling is biologically sexual foreplay regardless of how "friendly" you and the person doing it are. Makes sense that you would pitch a tent, as your body is anticipating further developments.

 

If you don't sleep with her and don't lead her on with any thoughts that she could be anything more than your good female friend, it won't change the friendship.

If you do sleep with her - even just during a night of flippant, drunken debauchery - woe be to you, buddy. At that point, all bets are off and you definitely risk changing or losing the friendship.

(Which is pretty much the way it works when you move any friendship from the platonic into the romantic, regardless of whether you're gay, straight, or something in-between).

 

what is it about the vagina that you feel is gross?

 

lol what does the computer have to do with a person's sexuality? Sorry I feel stupid but I have no idea what that meant haha and I'd like to know. I dislike Apple so does that mean something? I prefer Dell.

As for the original post, I don't think you should worry too much about your orientation just because you got a boner around your friend. It's normal to get a physical response when someone is right up next to you. It's also okay to question your sexuality. Most people aren't 100% gay and if you find that you're attracted to a woman then just let yourself feel and don't think too hard about it. I understand how confusing it can be though. Sometimes I've been turned on by seeing a man's boner and it is confusing. But even if I have liked male qualities before I think I'm gay because I've only felt truly physically and emotionally attracted to women. It is weird and I totally know what you mean. It would suck to be a guy in a situation because you have to deal with boners that other people can notice. If you tell your friend that you just think of her as a friend and don't do anything to lead her on, I'm sure it'll be fine and your friendship will remain the same.

I know once you've come out you feel weird if you're attracted to someone of the opposite sex since it's not going along with what you think you are. Sorry if that sounded confusing. I mean that once you tell people you're gay it feels weird to go back on your word and say you are attracted to a female. But don't feel like you have to box yourself into a label just because you've told others that you are gay. I'm not saying you're not gay, just that you should let yourself relax and be okay with your feelings and physical responses as they come. Sorry if this hasn't helped much but I'm glad you came on here to talk about stuff.

 

I think this thread is being perverted for the seriousness of what actually needs to be addressed.

Geufkee, what you are experiencing when you are with your friends sounds hormonal. Its probably happening because you are in contact with another person, regardless of their gender, and you probably would lack that contact otherwise.

Also it could be because you are relaxed in her presence. Working as a Massage Therapist, I happen to know that erections are a reaction to being relaxed, its the same as your stomach gurgling. (Exactly the same as going to sleep and waking up with morning wood)

If that is the only reason you are struggling, and questioning your sexuality then you have nothing to be afraid of, its nothing to be overly concerned over.

Are there other reasons though that you are thinking you are not gay?

 

Have you ever had romantic feelings for a woman? Is it the physical attraction that is confusing you right now or are there emotions along with the physical attraction?