Had you already slept with the opposite sex before you came out?

I have not.

That being said, if I were not in a relationship I would be interested in trying it just for the experience. I doubt I'd enjoy in since I tend to be a lot more feminine in the bedroom then in my public life, and the concept of casual sex just isn't that interesting to me.

If anything I'd really just use it as a way of learning more about myself.

 

Yup. I'm definitely not a gold star lesbian...
I was in long term relationships with a couple guys before I even figured I might be gay.

 

I did. But I did not enjoy it. At. All.

 

I don't think one needs to have sex with anyone to know that they're gay.

But yeah, I don't deserve a goldstar either. The sex wasn't disgusting or anything but I just didn't feel like I was getting anything out of it. And my mind kept wondering of and I noticed that I was thinking about girls... So yeah, that's probably not very heterosexual.

But yeah, you don't have to try straight sex to know you're gay. I don't recommend it.

 

I don't believe it is too difficult to find out whether or not you are gay without having sex with the opposite gender. We're in the age of internet porn... Anyways, I've only had sex with guys. I don't need to have sex with a girl to know I am not turned on by them at all. And if you had sex with the opposite gender and enjoyed it you are probably not 100% gay, there's varying degrees of sexuality.

 

Slept with neither gender. I found out through porn that I was bi. And it was sort of confirmed when I fell for a guy.

 

Never slept with anybody. But like Austin said, it shouldn't be too difficult to work out and you shouldn't have to have sex with either gender to work out your sexuality.

 

^ This.

 

I haven't slept or even been in a relationship with either gender, so no, I guess?

 

Never had sex with or kissed the opposite sex. I kissed a couple female friends playfully. But no. You don't have to have sex with the opposite sex to know it's not for you and you don't have to stick toothpicks under your toenails to know it'll hurt.

 

This! Although I will say, I started out with girls, always had a girlfriend and was never physically attracted to the only man I was in a relationship with ... he thought it was hot I was thinking about girls. Uhg.

 

Nope. Didn't need to.

Lex

 

I did and fooled around with a few girls, everything leading up to the sex was great. But actually having sex with a girl was just boring, I found no attraction or excitement. I blamed the feeling on the condom but looking back it was the fact I didn't like girls. I think I enjoyed all of the lead up because I could let my imagination replace her, as sad as that sounds.

 

I've fooled around with some girls before, but never had sex with them. I didn't need to do it to know I'd rather do it with a guy.

 

Nope, I just know that I like guys and girls.

 

I did but I do not think that you need to sleep with the opposite sex to know for sure that you are gay. I made that choice for reasons I now regret. For me the confusion came because I did have a desire to experiment with men sexually. But I later realized it was just a power trip. That combined with the fact that I am just a very sexual being and I was in denial about my sexuality and then later afraid to express it. When I actually did go all the way and have sex with a guy I hated it and regretted it. And I have never been able to form any romantic connection with men before then or after.

I think for each person it is different. This is a really difficult question to answer. For some sexuality is strictly about sex. For others they consider their sexual identity to be based moreso on who they can connect with on a more intimate/emotional level.

If you have no desire to have sex with the opposite sex than don't do it. If you find yourself wanting to then go for it I suppose. It's up to you. Doing so will not make you any less gay in my opinion if you are in fact gay (and not bi).

Also another indicator for me that I did not really enjoy sexual encounters with the opposite sex is that I needed to be drunk to kiss or do anything else with them. Otherwise, it did not appeal to me at all. I can't think of any instance where I was sober and had any desire to engage in any such behavior with a guy

 

No I have never had sex with a guy or done anything with a guy.