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How do i convince a friend that i am gay

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Gp3, Sep 5, 2011.

  1. Gp3

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    Im about ready to finially tell my best friend that i am gay. I think that he will be ok with it eventually but their are a couple of big problems. First of all i doubt many people would think i am gay in the first place. Im a big strong masculine kid and a good athelete. Im basicly a stereotypical jock at my highschool. Also me and my friend always jokingly come out to each other. ( he will be like "greg im gay" and i will laugh etc) we are always obviously joking even though we usually say it with a straight face at first. How do i tell him and make him know im serious when i come out?
     
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    Sit him down and tell him there is something important that you need to tell him. Make it very clear that you are not joking and he may well start laughing or what have you thinking you are joking but you have to make it clear you are serious and make sure he understands that.

    If you can't keep a straight face then I would suggest a letter or something like that.
     
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    Welcome to EC!

    The easiest way to convince somebody you're not joking is to tell them in a non-joking manner. If you text him "OMG IM GAY LOL KTHXBYE", he's gonna think you're kidding. If you sit him down and say "I'd like to talk to you about something, and it's kinda important", he's much less likely to.

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    Tell him you're gay, but be wearing a shirt that says, "No really" so when he gives you the LOLOMGWTF response, you can just nonchalantly point at your shirt.
     
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    Haha, I love that one! :grin:

    But yeah, you just have to stay serious until he believes you. It could be difficult though, I don't know about you but I have serious problems keeping a serious face when someone starts to laugh, I can't help but to grin. But maybe you can smile and tell him that you're actually serious? If he's your best friend he'll believe you soon enough although he might think that it's a joke at first. Good luck!
     
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    Easy! Show him your porn collection :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:

    Other than that, unless you have a boyfriend you can kiss in front of him, just be super serious like the others said. gl!
     
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    Just being serious is probably the best way. If it's something you guys joke about sometimes then telling him in a very serious way where he can tell you're not joking is the best way. :slight_smile:
     
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    I definitely vote to the "No really" shirt, just a genial idea!
    You can also use the jokes to bring the subject to conversation, something like "So, you know how we always joke about coming out?" and then tell him.
    Anyway you choose, good luck!
     
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    Aha! This is easy! So basically u sit down with him right? Then tell him ur gay in a complete and serious mannner, and here comes the fun part, if he doesn't believe u, just kiss him right on the mouth! Aha! Actually, that's a horrible idea (just thought id mention that for fun) however I have been a similar situation, when I tell people I'm gay, half of them don't believe me, really all u have to do is be very clear and restate it several times until they get it, its kind of like teaching a toddler their ABCs, after a few times, they get it.
     
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    Thanks so much. I think I'm gonna tell him next time I see him but we go to different schools so it may take a while. Thanks again
     
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    Let us know how it goes :slight_smile:
     
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    good luck!!
     
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