I don't trust straight guys (except for a few that I personally know)

Hey all!

I just want to say, for those of you who were bold enough to come out to other guys, I commend you for your boldness. :king: :king: I would never have had the guts to do it.

Seriously, except for a few close friends and close choir friends (I'm in the vocal music program at my school), no one really knows I'm gay and accepts homosexuality. My advice to you who haven't come out yet, DON'T COME OUT TO GUYS UNLESS YOU REALLY CAN TRUST HIM. Again, those of you who have, I admire your courage.

Maybe it's just my experience, but I've know guys, especially at my school and well, my town to be pretty anti-gay. There are just too many examples of homophobia I've experienced, some that I've even forgotten about I'm sure, for me to call it safe for a gay guy to let outhis secret of his sexual orientation. I can't really say how guys are otherwise, except for some exceptions (I have a great friend who is strongly anti-homophobic), so to all of you, especially those who have my experience, DON'T COME OUT TO STRAIGHT GUYS! It can post a threat to your physical wellness, very well your mental-wellness, and even to your life!! I'm so not kidding right now! Be careful about coming out to them. As hard as it is for me to say these cruel words, they can be your worse enemy. Be safe, come out SAFELY!

~~LowestVocal~~

p.s. I look forward to the generation in the future when gays, lesbians, transexuals, and questioning people don't have to hide their sexual orientation because society opens proudly to them. But for now, I do not live in that generation. So guys, I just want to tell you I care for all of you. Please come and post so I know you're doing okay. This is a great community! (&&&)

 

Proud, guys on the whole are more homophobic than girls. I don't know where you got your statistics, But from numberious experiences from many different places (again, atleast in MY town), I do say to be more cautious around guys unless you really know that they aren't averted to gays. I feel more safe with girls, and I'm sure there are many gays who would say the same.

Guys verbally say to you they aren't homophobic, when really, they are unaware of what they really are. I've grown up to not trust them in general. Of course, I d o make friends with some straight guys who really aren't homophobc as I learned them to not be. Still though, it's a good bet to say "be careful around guys," as in my first post in this thread. No doubt, there are indeed girls who are anti-gay as well (I didn't say there aren't). One girl doesn't like my homosexuality, a nd I have heard another two years younger than me who's already claiming what conservative adults claim, that "homosexuality is morally wrong."

But back to guys. If you look at the statistics in hate crimes reported, which group stand out more? Men or women? As a matter of fact, I have yet to read ONE article which talks about a female committing a hate crime towards homosexuals. The ONE closest story that I have read is the girlfriends of the two murderers of matthew Shepard were also jailed in the Mattew Shepard incident. The girls didn't commit the murder (who knows if they were homophobic); they were jailed for helping their boyfriends cover up the evidence. And the cover up wasn't spurred by a feeling of hate, but a feeling of fear of what would happen to their boyfriends and themselves. Other than that, I have read anything about girls yet. Again, that is not to suggest that girls aren't homophobic, but looking at these famous stories of gays being hurt or killed and by guys, it is safe to bet that guys, again, on the whole are more homophobic. So really. Just be careful around guys. I don't want you guys to get hurt. That's all.

edit- I'll also say now with more emphasis to becareful around some girls too. In general, anti-gay women aren't as bad as males (I can bet!), but they too can be hurtful. Basically, becareful around everyone (duh!), but take caution espeicially around guys. That's what I have been trying to say this whole time.

 

Yep, same here.

You know what? I actually had a dream about that! The dream took place around the annual day of silence. Before that day, all the so-called "free" Americans went to the ballot to vote for or against gay Marriage. Unsurprisingly, the overwhelming majority vote favored the "against gay marraige" vote. It was then officical. Our LOVING president Bush past the marriage Amendment, allowing only a man and woman to marry. So all of America went on celebrating the "traditional heterosexual marriage" by going out to dinner, wearing t-shirts with two mars symbols in the middle of a red cirle with a slash, and just basically being "in our face." This goes on without saying that with the marriage amendment, they continued to pursue other areas of their anti-gay agenda, areas other than in marriage. Obviously, mostly every gay in America was outraged! Most of all, they all felt neglected! I don't know how I could do this in reality, but in my dream, I started recruiting all gays in the U.S. and in Mexico (Canada I wasn't worried about) and we developed a plan to leave the country. I thought that we just had to. We weren't a welcomed part of the population.It was around that time that I just so happened to have found a large island 1/3 the size of the U.S. in the pacific ocean (LOL!).

So, on the day of silence, many people did not show up to work, many people were missing from their homes, and the whole Castro gay community is empty, as well as other gay communities as well! So we all moved to the Island, which was named Santo Rollaco, and we were going to be there for a long while, basically forever! Back in America, many bosses were angry that their employees didn't show up. But they only learned in a month or two, the same gay employees didn't show for a really long time. Conservative teachers in high-schools and middle-schools also noted that the few students they know are gay have been absent for so long.

And LOL! What really sucked was that because we left, their economy dropped by 1/6th!!!!! LOL!

All of these findings that their gay employees, students, friends, and family members were missing spurred an anger across America. "Yeah, so they're hiding. This is just probably another of their ways to try to get gay marriage to pass," they would think. "We're never going to legalize same-sex marriage, they should STOP WASTING THEIR TIME!" Ehem, little did they know we weren't trying to raise a voice, and we weren't going to come back!! We left for good!

A few years have past, and stilll, those gay people were missing. They were starting to get a little worried! Even though they thinking we are perverted people living a sick lifestyle, they know gay people by person and they loved those persons by heart. So yeah, they were worried alright! A few more years have past (by now, about 10 or 15 years!), many people started really really missing their loved ones! While they were enjoying their heterosexual marriages and hetersexist lifestyle, they also began to learn about the naturality of homosexuality and that it was meant for us to marry people of the same sex. Eventually, they realized what they have done and began their search for us. "Where could they possibly be?!?!?!?!" they would cry. It was too late for them. They have learned sadly, we were gone for good and never coming back.

Now, the island. So all these years, as America have been wondering what happened to us, the gay paíz de Santo Rollaco was prospering! Our technology went so far as developing a lazer barrier so that no heterosexual immigrants could enter. The technology also allow us to reproduce children. We were just living SOOOO happily with our marriage rights and our families! It was really emotional! At the end of dream, the finale song was sung, "Love Changes Everything," (a song sung in one of Andrew Lloyd Webber's musicals). It was so beautiful! We left America alone, went and started our own democratic nation, and we were free!! Americans never found the island and they never knew what happend to us!

So yep, that was my dream. There was a LOT more that happened in my dream than I could possibly say here, but that was basically what happened. I just felt like sharing this with you.