This year at my schools football camp I met a new kid that is going to my school and he is from Texas. We immediately became friends and he's pretty cool but he's is a dork in a good way I guess oh and he's really cute. Because he is my friend a lot of people ask me if he is gay because of how he acts. I always say I don't know or he is straight but I'm not sure myself because he does like to I guess put his hands on me a lot and one of my best 'girl friends' says that he flirts with me a lot and I've asked him if he is gay before and he said "no" but I think he is. I don't know what to do because I think I might end up falling for him and end up getting hurt. So I need help or any advice on what I should do.
Its very possible he's in a sort of questioning phase. If you asked if he's gay and he said no then you should just respect that answer. Even if he's lying and he is gay, it would probably be better for you to wait until he's comfortable enough with himself to be open. I'd say at least for the time being try to just stay friends.
I understand that I should let let him figure it our for him self but I don't know how to prevent myself from falling for him cuz I have done this before in a way and I ended up getting hurt and for I while I couldn't look at a guy without feeling like I can't have that person so why look and I would beat myself up over it and it took a while to get over that so I don't what to do that to myself again.
Well if you told him you were gay he might feel comfortable being honest with you if he is questioning. Of course this is only an option if you comfortable telling him.
Hard as it may be, try not to fall for him. It could just be his personality. If you fall for him because you think he's giving you 'preferential treatment' somewhat, and he's not, it could really hurt (trust me). And your friendship sounds too good to jeapordize.
^ this. Rule 1 of dating for gays/bisexuals: Everyone is straight unless they state otherwise. No exceptions.
Rule number two he is your friend first but see what happens down the track. And as always things may not be what they seem. You say he acts 'gay'. I take it you mean flamboyantly, foppishly, dandy, queer, lispy?
