So I've been attracted to both sexes basically ever since puberty, and although all of my closest friends know that I date/sleep with other women, it's not usually something I advertise. In the past I was really open and proud of my sexuality, but I noticed as I got older and guys started going through puberty as well, that I couldn't be as open about it. Today, I lie and tell most guys I'm straight, simply because every time I mention that I like women as well, I get asked to be in a threesome. Or the guy will ask if he can watch me have sex with another girl. Or if he can bring a friend. Or something offensive along those lines. I even stopped kissing the last girl I dated in public, simply 'cause there would always be some guy around to make crude remarks. Recently I also heard a story about a lesbian couple who got attacked and raped by a group of guys, simply because they were walking around at night holding hands. Anyway I don't really know where I'm going with this. Thoughts? Opinions? Experiences? I'd love to hear some feedback... BTW I have nothing against men, I just wish some would realize that my life's not a porno.
The way I see it, girls hit puberty earlier than boys and thus we mature before they do, both physically and (more importantly in context of this question) emotionally. Around our age, men to tend to be overly hormonal and that's just a fact of life. Some will get a kick out of asking crude questions and seeing the reaction (rather childish behaviour still) whilst some like the thrill of seeing if they can make their sexual fantasies come a reality with threesomes, so it's just a part of growing up around them I think. I'm pretty sure once they hit late-twenties early-thirties, that they calm down a lot more once they realise they're acting silly.
Wait, guys mature? I'd say there's no reason to tell a guy that you're bisexual unless you're planning on dating him or sleeping with him. Actually, there's technically no reason to tell him even AFTER you've started dating him or sleeping with him unless you want to, but I'm sort of a fan of full disclosure with dating and bed partners. Lex
