Well, as many of you know, I met with the Area Coordinator of my dorm today. It went pretty much as I expected. The guy I went on that walk with just needs some time, and I'm happy to give him time. However, the AC also said that I need to consider whether my communication style is too 'aggressive'/direct. I mean, I agree that I was WAY more forward with Alex than any other guy I was interested in, but that was really only because he was as well and I wanted him to feel comfortable. The only reason I'm hesitant is before, when I tried to be subtle instead of overt, and be a little more passive conversationally, I got screwed. Nothing 'bad' happened, but I found out too late that the guy wasn't interested me because I wasn't open enough. So, thoughts? This really isn't something that I can fix myself, because the way I communicate might make sense to me, but it might not to others i.e. Alex Also, I'm having coffee with a guy I met through the GSA on Tuesday, who is actually a mutual friend of mine and Alex's. It's not a date (just friends having coffee) so it shows that yes, I can have gay friends I'm not interested in . I found some hilarious LGBT holiday music that I want to share with him.
Shameless bump because insight would be hugely appreciated. Scouring the internets for help on how to make myself 'less direct' has been less than successful.
I have the same problem as you, I am a very direct person. I'm not really sure that there is a way to fix it though, because I know that it's just the way that I am. Sorry I can't help much more that that.
