I had already accepted I was gay, I was desperate to tell someone. So then I finally did tell my best friend (while we were drunk) but then I felt weird and I corrected my statement from being gay to bi. But after that, at school, I talked to this girl I met some time ago. I didnt even know her name, and suddenly I felt something for her. I wanted to talk to her so bad. And I did, and asked for her number, and I would love her to be my girlfiend. The thing is, I still only notice cute guys on the street. I can only watch gay porn, and girls dont turn me on, but still I cant stop thinking about this girl!! What is this?? Is this normal??
I've heard some talk about bi-romanticism here (the capacity to love people of either gender romantically, although you might be sexually attracted to one or the other). Perhaps that fits. Or maybe you do have sexual attraction for females occasionally as well, although it might come easier for guys. I definitely would agree with the above comment on living without labels, though. At least until you've figured out for sure which ones fit. Its good to know what is possible in human sexuality and orientations, but there's no reason to limit yourself before youve really had the experience you need to understand yours.
It is possible to still be gay and have occasional relationships with women. The reason you don't hear of it much is that gay people are reluctant to talk about it and straight people will pretend the issue doesn't exist.
I know for me that I can still be romantically attracted to men, but only sexually attracted to women. It can be really confusing at times..
Very often, when people are at the point of actually accepting themselves as gay, their unconscious will throw up one last defense, essentially going "Noooooooooooooo!" and suddenly you find yourself second guessing. So it's possible that's what's going on for you. If so, my guess is you'll pretty quickly find that this girl is nice and can be a good friend, but you won't feel any sexual desire for her, and your masturbatory fantasies will still be about guys and not about her. If so, then this is just your unconscious reacting to your "owning" being gay. Now... if you do find yourself genuinely sexually attracted to her, and wanting to have sex with her, then it's possible that you're somewhat bisexual and at that point, you can make a decision whether to pursue it and find out if you enjoy sex with her and the attraction is real. But my guess is you will probably have your answer before you need to do that.
Sexuality is complex. Don't let it get to you. However, If you end up with your hand up her skirt and don't like what you find, you may want to speak up.
Sexuality is far more complex then just gay straight and bi. These are just words humans made up to define observed behavior. People are under the impression that if there isn't a word for a sexuality that doesn't fit quite nicely into one of these labels that it cannot exist. Its just hard to imagine something without a word for it. I personally identify as gay because I have a boy friend and I'm basically just more interested in taking on a "feminine" role in sex. However to be completely honest I know I'm probably more bisexual as far as attraction goes. We should use labels to describe ourselves, unfortunately it seems often we let our labels define ourselves. We are before anything humans, and humans are complex sexual beings.
