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What should I do?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Confused Teen, Dec 1, 2011.

  1. Confused Teen

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    Hey guys,
    I'm really new to this site and just wanted to ask for some different opinions in my life. I have lived a good life. I'm a 16 old right now. No drugs, no achohol, and no sex. I'm still a virgin. Well ever since I was like 13 I got into porn. And found attraction into girls a first. Sorry I'm graphic. But soon I got bored of that, because i wanted to see if I like anything else. So I'm trying to see of I'm attracted to gay sex. I kinda was. Then I saw there were transgenders in the world, which seems like my dream to be with. Now I thought I was straight. But now I seem to have very arousing thoughts about getting with the same sex or transgenders. Now this one girl wants have "relations" with me because she thinks I'm attractive. She is a bisexual. And she said she would let me experience with sexuality with her and her friends with both sex. Now I dont think I'm attracted to guys, but just the penis. Maybe guys idk. Ik I'm attracted to girls, and I think transexuals are amazing. What should i do? Should I Go with girl to have sex with her and her friends, and see what I'm attracted to, or what else? Because I think I may wanna get into bisexuals?
     
  2. Marlowe

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    Porn can do strange things to the mind. There are a bunch of psychological theories about how it overstimulates the mind and increases our need for more diverse stimulation. So watching guy girl porn turns to watching guys or transsexuals because this sexual action is new and different. So this doesn't necessarily mean you are gay or bisexual. I think a good test is to think about what you fantasize (guys or girls), how it feels to imagine spending your life with a guy or a girl (which feels more comfortable), and how "deep kissing" with either gender seems. Even though I find vaginas to be somewhat attractive in a weird way, girl's saliva seem yucky, like it has germs in it (a description I have heard from other gay people talking about kissing the opposite sex and vice versa straight people talking about the same sex.

    As for taking this girl up on her offer. I would offer that often people understand their sexual orientation without having sex or despite having sex. I can't even begin decide this for you but here are some questions to ask yourself. What does sex mean to you? Does the casual and experimental nature of it feel right or would you rather wait for a more committed relationship? Why are you doing this? Is it to experiment or to prove to yourself that you are attracted to women? What do you hope to get out of this and what do you think the results will be? (I also want to say that I don't mean casual in a pejorative way. This might be a good opportunity because she is going into this with the understanding that you are experimenting, which if you have an open mind takes off the pressure for you to perform or to find her sexually attractive the way other situations might.)

    Hope this helps.