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my heart is hurting

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Mercy, Dec 2, 2011.

  1. Mercy

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    I miss my dad and itsd not even christmas and a whole lot of other things r going on all i can do is cry
     
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    I love you baby <3
     
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    Feel better soon! (*hug*)
     
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    It sounds like what you need to do right now is take a few deep breaths and find something to occupy your time and your mind with.

    Compartmentalizing things is a great help. That means take those things that are on your mind and organize them by importance, then only focus on the things you can do right now to make it better. If that means playing a game, then go play a game. Anything to take your mind off the stress is a good thing. I hate being in that kind of mood, but you just have to remember, your mood is all in your head. You have the power to change it. If you're feeling down, fake a smile for a little bit, eventually you'll forget you were faking it.
     
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    Hey Mercy, I'm sorry you're feeling so down :icon_sad: (*hug*)

    The closest person I've lost is my grandpa and I remember being pretty sad the first Easter, Thanksgiving, and Christmas when he was not with our family at the dinner table. I can't imagine how I'd feel if my dad was gone so I can't know how you feel. What I do know is lots of people get through it with time and I bet you can do it too. Yes, it's really sad, but that's normal and you have every right to feel that. Can you be with family and friends more and keep busy with other activities? Maybe volunteer to help others in your area? Go out shopping even if you don't buy, just to be out among all the bright decorations and see all the people bustling around in a shopping craze, that might be good for a laugh :icon_wink

    Hang in there (&&&)
     
  8. Mercy

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    love the ideas :slight_smile:
     
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    Wish there was a like feature here!
     
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    ^ Likes the idea of a 'like' feature!

    Hang in there. If it helps, write a letter addressed to your dad. Tell him what's new; how much you miss him; any funny stories about him and you that you remember. But only do it once. Then put it away. You can burn it if you like. Maybe somewhere, he'll be listening. :slight_smile:

    Hope this helps. Be strong! (*hug*)
     
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    ::hugs:: A lot of these people have such great advice. Hang in there!