This is just a random post here.Im usually in a thoughtful mood so i hope you guys dont mind that i sometimes express my thoughtfulness on here.Okay,well,I was just thinking about things that go on in this world and everything like that..I was thinking about people and how they act.I was thinking about how truely sexual human beings are and how it bothers me.Im a person with different views than the "average" person so i dont know if anyone on here could truely relate to me on this..but anyways,..lets get to the point..it just bugs me how truely sexual human beings are..some go "crazy" if they dont get sex..some have affairs so that they can get more sex..some pay for sex..some only care about sex..some lose their virginities(i apologize for my bad spelling)at a young age..some get made fun of if they dont lose it at a young age..some look at porn..well im pretty sure u basically get what im saying and well..it just bugs me sometimes.Now i dont want you to think im griping or putting anyone down because im not..im just a thinker and like to express how i feel and i wouldnt dare to ever put anyone down for how they are or what their beliefs are.I just like to express myself..hear what others think..and see if anyone else can relate to what i say.its just..idk..it bugs me because im very different.im a 17 year old who thinks that you shouldnt "lose it"until you are in a very long,commited relationship,are in love,and want to spend the rest of your life with that person,but thats just me..well,sorry about my little rant.again,if i offended someone,im sorry.
I agree. When we got "the talk" a few years ago, my mom explained to me when i got home that sexual intercourse before being married to the person is a sin. i don't think anyone pays attention to that anymore.
@hula735,and with me i didnt really ever get the talk and ive never been religious or anything.i just think u should be in a logn term commited relationship,are in love,and want to be with them forever but im glad someone can relate to me,i like that feeling..and with me,i dont care that its a sin really cuz many things r sins and everything but im glad u can relate my friend.im 17 years old and sometimes get weird looks or get made fun of when people find out that im a virgin. ---------- Post added 5th Dec 2011 at 04:01 AM ---------- but i will never get pressured into anything.i almost did get pressured once when i was younger and everything but im glad i didnt make that mistake.
I agree with you on the long committed relationship- at first due to religious reasons but then due to entirely practical ones. I want to be a virgin when I get married so that its even more special and I don't carry STDs, expectations, children or abortions into my marriage. So I entirely agree with you.
@hana solo,yea,i agree with u on all of that.im glad that some people can relate to me on this.it just bugs me that the main topic these days is sex,u know?
Everyone has different opinions on the subject. And, of course, everyone has different sex drives. Myself, I'd have to agree with you - I stand by the rule of having sex only in a relationship: no hookups, one-night stands etc. both for safety reasons and because, well, I see sex as part of a successful relationship, a sharing of feelings between two people, not just "getting off". Getting off is something I can safely do myself if it comes to that, thankyouverymuch.
@adam88,yea i know but i have a high sex drive though kind of but i agree with u all the way..and also,its called making love isnt it?
I personally agree that it should only be between two people who love each other in in a long term monogamous relationship. But I also think everyone else should be able to have (consensual and of age) sex with whomever they want for whatever reason (Even money). And if you're in a relationship, your spouse needs to approve of your affairs. Again, these are things I disagree with, but feel that people should have the right to. And I don't think the fact that humans are sexual is a bad thing.
As I see it, the problem isn't the sex drive so much as the confines we put on it. Take a look at a couple of the other animalistic attributes of humans. Start with eating. We need food to survive. And how have humans dealt with this need for food? We've tried to make it as plentiful as possible. We give people a vast array of culinary options, from simple to complex, from healthy to unhealthy-in-large-doses to unhealthy-in-nearly-all-doses. We've made it both a private thing (drive-thru windows, frozen dinners) and a public thing (meeting at restaurants). Then there's elimination. That one has remained a very private thing, and is usually not discussed at all. However, we've still recognized that "everyone poops". So every home, and every public space, has rest rooms built in. And these rest rooms often are made to be as pleasant as possible, with nice decor, fluffy toilet paper, and pleasant air fresheners to mask the odors. Then there's the sexual urge. Mind you, I'm not saying that the world should be filled with "orgy-toriums", where people just go to get it on....although I think it's a good idea to have them for those who like the idea. And I don't think every house or public space needs a "sex room" for when the need strikes. But what HAVE we done with the sex urge, as a people? Masturbation isn't even to the level of defecation. With that, it's known we do it, there may be some embarrassment about it, but at least everyone is allowed to go do it. Masturbation is still frowned upon and mocked by a large number of people. Masturbators are considered both narcissistic and desperately lonely. It's considered an extremely poor substitute for "real sex". But then if somebody goes out looking for "real sex", and isn't in a relationship...then they're "slutty". "Uncaring". And, oddly, "desperate" yet again. Which leaves sex within a relationship as the only acceptable form of sex for many people...and "within a marriage" for a smaller group. I'm aware the sex drive isn't as strong or as insistent as the urge for food or a trip to the bathroom. But picture if the only way you were allowed to eat was in a party of four at a restaurant. How long before you joined any available threesome just for a chance to finally eat? I think that's what's behind a lot of the problems with sex. The lying, the cheating, the obsessive need to go find more. If it were readily available, I think there'd be a lot less of that. And the thing is - it IS readily available. I honestly think we as a people need to consider masturbation not only something you shouldn't be ashamed of, but something to enjoy. No, I don't think we're ready for the world to chat about it casually - "Oh, I had a great jerk-off session this morning" - but I think that'd be a much healthier way to go about things. Lex
