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Bi or gay? I'm a guy who seems straight but is questioning, advice on coming out.

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by octoberman11, Dec 9, 2011.

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  1. octoberman11

    octoberman11
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    First off, I'm confused. I've struggled for a while with what I am really am (I am 22 so still young). I have just entered a heterosexual relationship with a girl and I am happy. We have sex alot, I have no problem getting it up, and I genuinely like her.

    I've slept with 6 women in my whole life and have enjoyed all of it. However, I have watched gay porn in the past and fantasized about being with men.

    I know that I am not 100% straight I just don't know what to do now. Am I bi or gay? How do I figure it out? At this point, I'm not sure where to turn to next. I do not want to be a married, depressed bi/gay guy who thinks about how's he's in the closet all day long but I am not sure if that's really me.

    Can someone please share insight on what they think I should do? That would really help me in this hard time. Thanks.
     
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  2. needshelp

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    well, it seems like you're bisexual or on the straight end of bisexual.
     
    #2 needshelp, Dec 9, 2011
  3. J Snow

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    Hi, welcome to the site =)

    Sexuality is a spectrum (see Kinsey Scale image below). You aren't just gay, straight, bi. It also seems most people are bisexual to some extent, so there's really no reason for you to be worried about feeling different or anything. The truth is you don't need to do anything about it, unless you are unhappy and want a change. If you are happy with the girl you have, stay with her, if you feel unhappy and really want to try being with a man instead, do it.

    The important thing is to do what makes you happy. Don't get hung up on label. I hope that helped. Good luck (*hug*)
     

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