Hi there is this guy I have had a crush on for 3 years now and he is a real calm headed person. I mean he never gets mad. But I don't if I should tell him. He and I are really good friends and have allot in common but I am still afraid he will never speak to me again. Should I tell him?
Does he know you are gay? Do you know if he is gay, bisexual or otherwise not straight? If he is straight and he thinks you are straight, then I wouldn't tell him you have feelings for him. Instead, start with coming out to him, and if he takes that well then you can consider telling him about your crush. edit: aand I just noticed your out status is "all" after posting, so this advice won't help much .
Well him knowing you're gay is a good start. He's already not never speaking to you again (if that makes sense), so yay! Do you have any reason to suspect he may be in some way not straight? I would suspect that a lot depends on what, exactly, you tell him. "I have a crush on you" is different than "I want to go out on a date," as is "I want you to be my boyfriend." Some of those are compatible with friendship, some are not, given the context and what the two people involved are like. How exactly do you want to approach this?
The thing is he shows no signs of what he likes. All of my friends and I are still wondering about it.He is starting to come out of his shell so you never know
If you go for it, try to do it in a non-threatening way. One thought is bring up relationships or dating or whatever in a conversation, like what ^ said. Then you can say something like "there's no gay guys around here that I like enough to date. I hate it! I mean, if only someone like you was gay, I'd ask you out in a heartbeat!"
Yep! that's exactly what I would do!! Because if he goes all awkward, you can just laugh it off or pretend you didn't mean anything by it without affecting your friendship. But if he seems flattered or something...
Two of my friends did that and every time he answered he was kind of dodging the questions and thinking really hard. One of my friends thinks he might be bi-curious. I have also seen the same thing happen when he was being asked the same questions by his brother and he reacted the same way. I guess she might be right but you never know.
Any news yet? Did you try anything definitive ("If only someone like you around here were gay," etc.)?
So it is now official. We now officially know he is Bi-curious and that he only likes me as a friend which is okay but at least now I know
