Hi all I've been having trouble lately working out how I feel about some people. I'm sure not sure how to tell apart close friendship to wanting something more. There's this friend who I like, we cuddle and mess around a bit but we never really do anything. He knows I like him and doesn't like me back and just wants us to be friends. He doesn't see sex as any big deal, but I do a bit, or at least I need some kind of emotional connection to whoever. Last night we started to go a bit further than usual (my doing), he stopped me saying he wasn't sure its what I wanted and that he didn't want to confuse me. He also made a comment that he thinks I'd want a relationship having just started to come out rather than random sex. I think he's right. Lately, I've just been feeling pretty lonely and I like him. I want to keep him as a friend but I'm having trouble sorting out my emotions as to how close I feel to him, and how I feel about other people in general. Just not sure what to do so I can sort out how I feel and not put myself in a position where I'm probably just going to get hurt. Sorry if this makes no sense.
I think this guy is the best friend you could have right now I would agree with him. Stay friends, don't take it farther, and enjoy the friendship You sound really close and I'd hate to mess that up if it was me. (*hug*)
A simular thing happened to me with my friend but I did tell her I liked her. and i'm kind of glad that it didn't go anywhere and that we are still good friends and eventually I got over it.
This guy sounds like a pretty good friend from what you've described. I agree that after having just come out, it's probably better to look for a relationship rather than just sex. I also think that if you had gone through with it, separating your friendship from your sexual relationship would be very difficult and confusing. But I definitely understand the frustration with what seems like very few relationship possibilities, and the loneliness that can bring. I'm sorry, because that is really no fun to feel like. But I maintain that sex, without a relationship to back it up, will only make you feel increasingly lonely.
