My boyfriend is a transguy. I'm genderqueer. I wish he would give me the same kind of support I give him.
He just kind of wrote it off as me being moody and got awkward about, so we never talk about it. He actually get's frustrated at me for it.
Well you should be clear about specific things you wish he could do better. I know for me, it would be difficult to know how to show my support to someone who is genderqueer. Its obvious to know to treat your boy friend like a full man, but I think it might help to specifically tell him what would make you feel more comfortable about your gender identity.
Makes sense. I guess I've been too wrapped up in trying to keep him happy and fixing the days he's not happy then not thinking about telling him what could be done for me. I forget I exist until everything starts to spill over. :icon_redf
You're not the only one like that. I'm a big "feeler" and I really kind of have a tendency to make all of my decisions based around how they effect others, until I kind of lose it and it all boils over, which usually resorts in some sort of panic or anxiety attack. If you are going to have a relationship with someone, you should be able to tell them how you'd like them to treat you in regards to your gender. I hope it goes well (*hug*)
Thank you so much. (*hug*) It means a lot that there are people out there willing to listen to me complain.
I can empathize. I often times and the supportive one and the person that people call when they need help or advise. I don't mind doing it, but it sure gets tiring after awhile. It would be nice to have someone that I could lean on for support.
Who does Abby go to for help? That's where I am. I'm Dear Abby to my friends but they never want to listen to my problems or help me... its hard, being Abby.