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Break Up Help...

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Revan, Jan 2, 2012.

  1. Revan

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    Hey all,
    So I've finally decided that it's time to end my relationship, my only concern at the moment is this: When?!

    The reason I say this is as you all know I don't always see him all the time, I'm just concerned about when I'll see him. The thing is this Thursday I fly in from Florida, then the next day I'm busy from 9am until 10 pm due to taking train back home followed by rehearsal. Then I have a large amount of eight hour rehearsals from this Friday until Saturday the 14th. And here's the catch, his bday is the next day the 15th. So you see my trouble, I don't want to like ruin his bday but I don't want to keep pretending I'm happy when I'm not....

    Help
     
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    Can you wait until after his birthday? Or is it just not possible? If it is, wait for his sake. If not, break it to him as gently as possible and walk away. Explain if you feel you should. But just leave him. Don't linger. Don't make it harder.

    I'm sorry it didn't work... (*hug*)
     
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    I mean I can, I have the play for several days so I'll be pretty busy anyway, but how soon after his bday should I wait? :S
     
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    Not long. I'd do it ASAP after his birthday, not to drag it out. But make sure you have the time to explain why if you feel you should.
     
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    Yeah, Filip helped me with that part :slight_smile: But I forgot to ask him about this. Oh and um...exactly how should I deal with his family, his mother and sister apparently really liked me, as did his friends and have several of them on fb so I'm kinda like....how do I talk to them? :S
     
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    Any thoughts?
     
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    Tell them the truth about why you broke up with him and that you still value their friendship. Everyone doubted why I broke up with my boyfriend (it was because I felt only a friend for him but he loved me) and I got so sick of it. If they do that to you, break contact or tell them to mind their own business.

    Sorry for the late reply- computer was off.