I have this memory stuck in my head, one of those memories you just cant forget. It was a day when my best friend came over to my house when we were very young. He came over alot, but that dy was different. We were playing with legos, we decided to build a house, then when we finished we started playing with the lego ppl, he was one and I was another and they both lived in the same house, but the part that made me mark this day forever was the intensity of the game. We got pretty into it, and to make things short we made those lego ppl gay, they were a couple, we had an extraordinary time, of course at the very end it felt a little awkward we were very young. But the thing I wanted to ask you is if you guys think he might be gay as well? I know its impossible to tell just from that one time, but do you think that meant something? Also you should know he has never had a girlfriend. What are youre thoughts?
Well, I know that we all born bisexual creatures... And we decided or copy what's around us... I mean our parents. but you can't say by that game you two played that he was gay. I mean childs have those interests when they're little. they start to experiment with both sex... I can tell you I kissed in the mouth my cousin and my sister when I was younger and that could have been because of we're all bisexual persons. or I really was bisexual, cuz I'm. I have interest in girls and boys.. so, you don't know, you should ask your friend if he's gay or something like that, just be direct but I think he's gay, in my opinion for what I've read of ur little history.
Really difficult to say from such a limited understanding of him. It may have been really intense for you and not for him. Or perhaps intense for him for different reasons. Also, you can't really make any assumptions about him not having had a girl friend. I presume he also hasn't had a boyfriend... so that fact is of little consequence I'd say. I'd think the more pertinent question is, do you want him to be gay? And if so, those are probably the feelings I'd delve into. J.
How old were you guys when this happened? Did you know what "gay" was at that time? I'd say if its pre-puberty (which it sounds like it was) the chances of meaning anything are less. I'd definitely warn you against making any kind of assessment based on that. Perhaps he realized early on that he was attracted to guys, perhaps he just went through a questioning phase (if he was old enough), or perhaps it was just meaningless playing around. If you really want to be sure, I'm afraid you're best bet is to ask. I know that isn't always an easy/practical approach, but its really the only one you can be confident about most of the time.
we were like 12 and yes we did know what gay was. One of the things that makes me think he might be gay too is that we joked about it all the time, and kept joking about it later in life. I asked about the lego thing because thats the one I had in mind, but I almost never talked about girls with him, well we did, but to criticize them. One time we were with another friend, and he put on straight porn, and I remember that guy was completley aroused and stuff and I wasnt, but my friend didnt seem either, I even remember this other friend looking at us like "whats the matter with you??" I mean there alot of little things but I dont know.
it could, but I have had a similar experience, and though I think he might come out someday, he seems to be straight. We used to play with beanie babies... I know right. But we made couples with them and what not, and though most were straight, there were gay ones (partially because the animals sex was based on the type of animal, so two of one makes a gay couple). Either way, we both had side families and kids (mcdonalds version) but always had one main couple, where we each played a side. I don't know, but he still claims to be straight and has a gf.
I wouldn't say that he ISN'T gay, but I'd also say that that's not much foundation to build a house on. Lex
kids do not program knowing anything about gay or straight. that is taught to us. just like it is taught to us that you should like the color blue if you are a boy and not pink. if you never knew this you may just like the color pink becuase you would not think anything about it. as children we are less guarded about social mores and norms and "rules". kids just sort of "act out". until later we learn..."ohhh this is bad, ohhh this is wrong, ohhh i'm not supposed to play with legos and make both lego guys like each other.". is the guy gay? i dont know. he could be, he could not be. he could have just been experimenting with things as a kid and later found more of an attractioin to women. just because a guy never had a girlfriend doesn't make him gay. if you have never had a boyfriend, it wouldn't make you straight. the point is, many people may have some degree of attraction to the same sex, however, it does not mean they want to act on it due to social pressures or due to it not being that big of an attraction in their adult life....
I think you've read into it a bit much personally.. you were just joking around and being kids, and at that age the whole taboo of gayness makes it something to giggle about. I remember when I was 11 I would call my friend a lesbian and thought it was the funniest thing in the world. Weirdly though, that guy is gay now - and so am I lol.. hmmm, I feel I've contradicted myself - anyway what I'm trying to say is what lex says, there is little foundation to make that deduction.
If he really is your best friend you should be able to talk to him about it. It might be awkward, but it'll surely be worth it when you find out.
Are you out to him? Maybe he wonders the same thing about you. Even if he's not gay, he sounds like a good person to come out to.
