Okay... So, after much whining and depressing about not having anyone in my life, I have finally achieved the impossible and scored myself a boyfriend. He's really sweet and cute and more or less everything I could ever hope for. Only now though, I'm starting to doubt whether it's actually what I want at the moment. I mean, I complain to myself that I hate being alone. But truthfully, I'm pretty happy with a fairly solitary existence. Also, he's starting to act pretty serious about the whole thing. He said he loves me... I honestly had no idea what to say in reply to that. I told him I liked him a lot, but don't like to say words like love without meaning them absolutely. To be honest, I'm pretty happy with the whole relationship thing. I like him a lot. I just feel like he wants more from me than I'm willing to give quite yet in it? I don't know. That hardly made sense, I don't think. Anyways, Feel free to share your thoughts on my ramblings? :icon_redf
So you're in different places emotionally. I don't think that's necessarily detrimental to your relationship. People move at different speeds. But you shouldn't feel like he's rushing you, or trying to push you into feeling the way he does. Don't say you love him just because you think that's what he wants to hear. If being in different places becomes an issue for you guys, I guess my advice would be to talk to him about it and let him know how you're feeling. You may also want to ask yourself why you're nervous to get serious with him. Is it just because of the pace of things, or is there some other reason?
Just be open to him about how you feel. At times it easy for one person to fall in love with some one and the other still trying to understand how it feels to love some one. Take your time and if he really loves you he will give you time to let your feelings come out.
As Pinstripe said, people move emotionally at very different speeds. My boy friend told me he loved me 3 days into our relationship, which came as a major shock to me. Its actually pretty common for one person in a relationship to fall faster or be "more in love" than the other I believe. I don't think it necessarily means there is anything about your relationship that needs to be corrected.
My girlfriend loved me and told me right from the start. It took me ages to figure out how I felt and I couldn't say the words without meaning them. We have now been together six months <3 so give it time! That doesn't mean its bad just that you're moving at different speeds
