hey guys, I promised myself i would come out to my mom this winter break. My break isn't over yet, but my sister is going back to school on Monday, and I want her to be here to support me after I talk to my mom. I want to come out to her today but I don't know how to bring up the conversation. How do you bring up the conversation leading to coming out? How have you guys started up the conversation when coming out to someone important?
There's no good time or easy way to do this. The biggest piece of advice I have: Don't think, just do. Don't think about how awkward it will be or anything, because it's seriously only awkward for a second then it's already out there and you can just talk about yourself like it's no big deal. Remember, this is about YOU! Not your parents, friends, siblings, or anyone else. Just walk into the room your mom is in, and just say, "Mom, I'm gay" I did it by getting in the car and starting with "Before we go anywhere, I need to tell you guys something" And then i just said it. Once you say it, it will be a LOT easier to talk about it with them. So do it today! You can do it. You mom will love you, and you've already got a sister who is okay with it. Definitely do it today while your sister is still home. Having my brother be there when I did it was a GREAT help and a boost of confidence for me.
You can do it like Taylor says, or you could write and note and hand it to her, or read it to her. You can get your sister to help you by perhaps telling your Mum you want to tell her something. You could bring up an LGBT topic and then try and steer the conversation towards you. If you want to do it casually you can just say whilst watching tv or something 'that guy is really hot', it all depends how you feel most comfortable. I totally agree with Taylor the more you think about it the worse it will seem, once you have decided how you want to do it, its best to just try and crack on with it. Im not trying to deter you but if you dont manage to do it try not to be too hard on yourself, there will be another day.
So I didn't tell my mom yesterday... but I told her today! It took a long time for me to gather the courage to go up and talk to her. I finally walked up to her while she was in the kitchen, and said "I've wanted to talk to you about something for a long time, but I've been putting it off. I wrote you this letter and I would like you to read it." Then I handed her a letter that I wrote this past summer (it's on here somewhere). she read it, and as she did she looked up and said "are you sure?" I told her yes, and to keep reading. It tooter her three tries to get through the whole thing. When she finally finished she said that she just wanted me to be happy. She told me that i have made her so proud, and she wants only the best for me. We hugged, and cried, and talked about it for a while. My sister came in and talked about it too. It was great! I feel so relieved. I can never express the love and appreciation I have for you all, here on empty closets. You have all helped me accept myself, and become a stronger individual. Much Love, -Chris
