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i dont know what i am

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by lostprincess, Jan 27, 2012.

  1. lostprincess

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    Hey, I am a 21 yr old mom I have been with men my whole life and recently have found myself looking at lesbian porn I know it might be too much information but I really need input. I findsome women extremely attractive and beautiful but maybe I just have an extra great appreciation for a beautiful body most of the time the thought of doing anything with a women is unapealing unless its a super hot naked girl I find myself getting really turned on. I know i am attracted to men as long as they have nice bodies and are very well kept but lately my hubby and I have been having problems and havent been getting intimate so maybe im just deprived?? But I know when i look at stunning naked girls i find myself hot but never outside of like playboy models and porn I can't picture myself with any real girls ive actually met I am just so confused I need advice :confused:
     
  2. Queeran

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    In my opinion, I think people are too hung up on falling under a certain "label" instead of just feeling what they feel and accepting it as such. You like what you like and that's really no one's business but your own. Granted, some people feel more comfortable being put under a certain "label" because they attach their identity to that and it becomes a significant part of who they are.

    If I were you, I'd just keep doing what you're already doing (meaning, experimenting with viewing lesbian porn) and see if anything progresses from there. It's 100% okay to find women attractive, regardless of your orientation. Even if you fall under a particular orientation, there's nothing wrong with being able to appreciate and attractive person of the opposite/same (depending on preference) sex.
     
  3. Jim1454

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    Hi there and welcome to EC.

    My advice would be to focus on the problems you and your husband are having and to work on them. To be unhappy in your marriage at 21 suggests that there's something going on that you need to work on. Your same sex attractions may be related and they may be secondary...
     
  4. silverhalo

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    I agree with Jim1454 and I would just say that you might be attracted to women but it doesnt make you gay or bisexual just because you get turned on by lesbian porn.