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Have been coming out to several friends the past couple days

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by jsmurf, Jan 30, 2012.

  1. jsmurf

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    Been going through a "coming out to friends" rut the past few days... What sparked it was a party I went to on Saturday night at a friend's house. We were sitting on the balcony, and she randomly mentioned that she was bisexual, and then I stepped in and said, "well, so am I." We were both surprised about each other, haha. But it was very cool. (Like me, she also has never dated or slept with anyone of the same gender, although she's closer to being a lesbian) She also introduced me to a few gay guys (though they were with their respective partners there) who were at the party. This gave me a tremendous confidence boost.

    The next day I got on Facebook, and decided to send a message to all my straight guy friends (about 4-5 people int total) from University, most of whom live in Vancouver BC (whereas my female friend is in Seattle). I've only gotten one response back, and it's from the guy I feared was the most homophobic. It reads something as follows, "I'll get over it."

    :slight_smile:

    So most of this latest group of people no longer live in the same city as me, but it still makes me feel quite ecstatic, but at the same time a little unnerved.
     
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    That's awesome!! I'm glad that things are going well so far!!
     
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    Good for you!!

    I've been dropping the bomb recently myself to some of my friends haha (I'm also a college student). I think I couldn't contain myself anymore honestly. so far so good!

    I haven't tried the most homophobic of friends yet, but fingers crossed! A response like "I'll get over it" is great because it shows that you are more important to them than your sexuality or their belief about it.
     
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    Turns out, only one friend so far has condemned it, likening it to pediphilia and necrophilia.
     
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    Nothing wrong with necrophilia, as long as its consensual.
     
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    Whats funny?
     
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    Your joke about necrophilia being consensual.
     
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    It wasnt a joke. Some necrophilia is consensual.
     
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    T'is true, and not a joke, actually. Some people do that.

    Anyhow! Back on topic. :] Congrats on your coming out, and it's great that things have gone well so far. As for the one "friend" of yours who is being silly, ignore them. Being gay is like being gay; there's no other comparison. Keep your chin up and hang in there.
     
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    Kudos for coming out to your straight guy friends on FB, and congrats on getting mostly positive responses so far. Don't let the negative ones discourage you--they're just unable to see past your sexuality and their disapproval of it to accept you as a person.