omg is this for real!

It all depends. Are you looking for a serious partner, a lover, a weekend...? These things are universal. Sometimes it's hard to detach your immediate desire from your greater goals, but few options are necessarily wrong, you just need to take care of yourself and your partner, whatever their role is.

So, here is my advice: long distance relationships are fun, but near impossible to maintain unless you establish an openness that allows you both to be free when apart (caveat: this is my opinion, your mileage may vary). That being said, if you are into each other and you have the opportunity for a great time together, sexy or not, then take it. Be completely honest and open, and demand no less from him.

I can say from personal experience that I have some wonderful friends/lovers in remote places from me. We always wonder if our time together might escalate to more, but we're also entirely aware of where we are, physically and emotionally. So far, as long as we've keep all the reality in mind, it lets enjoy the time that we do have together.

Take all the joy you can get. Just be safe and be cautious but also be loving and eager. You never know what might happen.

-P

Other caveat: I'm in an uncharacteristically open and positive mood. Still, I re-read this and I think it's solid.

 

He is most likely expecting sex. Nothing wrong with that, there are no rules for speed. You do what feels right. What you should ask yourself is whether you want to actually pursue anything meaningful with someone who lives so far away.

 

Go for it.

If you're not comfortable with sex, just say no.

He wont give a fuck about you snoring, he wants your dick.

Simples.

 

how long have you talked with him and have talked with him on video chat?
i would want to know the dude before going to his place.

let someone know exactly where you're going and who you're with.

 

Yeah, I agree with Sunsetting. If you havent Skyped him yet, I suggest you do.

 

If you've hooked up before, presumably you know all the steps to take to ensure it'll be a safe one. (...right?) I'd say the steps are about the same. Meet him somewhere neutral first, like a coffee shop next to campus. Chat with him, see if you enjoy him in person as you do online. If anything feels "wrong", call it off. Tell him you don't feel comfortable with him, thank him for meeting with you, and go home.

If you feel fine with him, go ahead and head back to the dorm room with him. Feel free to do as much or as little as you'd like with him the first night. (If you think anal might be in the forecast, make sure you bring your own condoms and lube.) You might warn him a bit that you snore, but other than that, have a good time.

Lex

 

Dont worry Danny19... there's always another bus. Take it from a virgin 4 years your senior.

What i would do to be 19 again.

 

thanks danny 19 for sharing. personally he sounds like a whore and some other booty call probably came up. you saved yourself trouble and possibly and std. good thing it didnt' work out. i mean, who is really asking someone they never met to sleep over that soon.....SEX. he's a slut.

 

Hmm.


Sounds like you got a booty call, bud.. hah.

 

It's interesting how simply asking to get to know a person can reveal their true intentions. I'm glad you took the absolute right steps. You are an ace!