Online guy says he loves me, danger or dream come true

I guess I'll need more info.

* How long have you been chatting?
* How close are you two, distance-wise?
* Have you met/hooked-up yet?
* What makes him think he loves you?
* How old are you two?

Lex

 

Wait... He approached to say he loves you? Like, you had never even talked before, and he loves you? Because that would be weird... I mean, regardless of whatever feelings he may have, he should know that you don't just say you're in love with someone when you are introducing yourself. Because it's weird.

However, as you are not exactly a teenager that someone is trying to take advantage of, it would probably be okay to meet him. Meeting him does not amount to a commitment of any kind: you are just meeting him.

In case you are unfamiliar with the normal safety precautions for meeting someone you've been talking to on the Internet, meet in a public place, and make sure someone else knows what you're up to.

 

um, You are already asking yourself if meeting him is a good idea...
so it's not,
if he was someone you really fall for then you wouldn't have doubts about meeting him,imo
(sorry if it sounds cliche and unrealistic)

 

Never meet up with someone who you havent, at least, talked on the phone with first.

Skype is also a good thing.


I dont think the fact that hes just contacted you out of the blue and said that he loves you automatically makes him a danger. It makes him lonely. Maybe it also makes him desperate. It makes him passionate. It makes him forward.

If you like him, keep talking to him.

 

sorry man, but this is a weirdo. who tells someone they love them after a month of chatting online without meeting or without talking.

he could be in teh middle east or he could be in your hometown lying. either way, he seems weird.

when online dating, here are some things to watch out for:

1. if you can never seem to get a person to give you a picture, skype, or even talk on the phone...then cut the ties with them. doesn't mean they are crazy but it does indicate they have something they either want to hide or they they are so uncomfortable with theirseleves or sexuality that it wont work anyway. continued excuses not to provide this information is a tell tell sign.

2. overtures of love that come fast and quick: "you're the best thing i ever chatted with". I feel like im falling for you, i love you, i feel like we just click and we're really meant to be.......watch out for these types of sayings especially if you have not met them. this is someone that is a bit warpped because anyone in their right mind may have an attraction to you but knows that until you meet, there's no way you guys can really see if you like each other.

3. prolonged chatting with out meeting.....does he always have an excuse as to why he can't meet? does something always seem to come up that prevents a meeting..? person is hiding something and i suggest you end communication.

4. convoluted stories: is there some big story that seems really unreal. 9 out of 10 times, it is.

 

no problem. everyone from the internet is not crazy but it does allow you to mask and hide yourself so you have to be careful. the most concern is when you get 2 or more of these watchouts that come all together with one person. then you know something isn't right.

 

Hi quiteman702,

I have encounter the same problem when a man approach me on online dating site. He's not from my country and he said he found my profile because he visited my country a month ago. Se we started to chat using whatsapp and during our fist day of chatting he said that he loves me and would like to marry me if i'm ok with that. So i feel kinda weird and i doubt him for that. so i said that i was doubtful of him and ask him to prove that i can trust him. but then he said that he doesn't have any other social media account for me to read sth about him. So i said that we should not continue chatting because i think he's might be a liar.

After a week i feel bad about what i did to him and i contacted him back because i thought if he has other motive, he must have convince me again after i dump him. so maybe i can trust him again. But this time he said he already have someone else since i doubt him. He is coming to my county to meet his new BF and he said he want to meet me. but i said i just want to be his friend but he insisted that i'm his first love and he still love me. So i said to him that i am not ready for a serious relationship and told him that i rather not to meet him if meeting him is going to give him a false impression and false hope. So he stop contacted me after that.

So,
1- Do you think that i did a right thing by doubting him?
2- Can i trust him because if he is dangerous or has another motive he must have convince me again if he has a bad motive?

Hope you can help me...

 

Another thing to consider is that a lot of time if non-citizens marry someone in the USA, they can more easily get permanent residence.

But loving someone without knowing them is ridiculous in its own right. Sounds like someone to add to the ignore list.

 

Thank you quiteman702 and codeforlife,

I am actually not from USA and it is not allowed for anyone to be gay in my country. so i don't think that he want to marry me for citizenship plus he said he wants to bring me to his country with him

anyway, i agree that its weird to love someone without meeting him. Glad that i am not the only person who thinks like that.

So i will stop text him and stop feeling bad for rejecting him

Regards,
Newkidintown