Homophobia

Very, my closest relatives are all homophobic including my own mother. in fact, my cousin is just the same but i don't have to worry about her talking about me for i don't have anything to talk about. My aunt is a social worker and i plan on coming out to her and telling her the truth hoping she will understand ad give me some more advise. In addition, it makes me feel bad as well. because it feels as if i am fighting agaist the evry people who grew me up, tough me moral values etc. and when they do homophobic things i get very defenseful and i am really baffled as to whether being gay is wright or wrong.

My advise to you Chris, is to have a one on one talk with your cousin and ask her straight out what she thinks of u later down in the convo and find out if ur sexuality is going to change the fact that you 2 are still of the same flesh and blood. . (best if u could use a comparison to herself or something she can relate to to understand you)

 

No advice sorry! but I do feel powerless ion those situations. It's like straight people can defend themselves without making the situation worse but gay people can't. it's all just stupid. There's a million people like the guy you described who'd I'd like to punch!

 

well honestly I deal with a lot of those people by not telling them. It kinda sucks and I always wan to cry after I hear them say crap, so I defend as much as I can, but it still hurts. But I know where you are coming from, and sometimes you just have to let it go, but with people who you love and are a part of your life, it can be a really hard situation, and a lot of it depends on whether you think that they will come around and accept you or whether they will cut you off and really hurt you either physically or emotionally. I'm sorry not to have really contributed much, but I guess this is the best I can do, because there really is no good solution to this, no fix-it. (*hug*) (&&&)

 

Homophobia makes me cry. One of the reasons I don't wanna come out to some friends is because how often he says he finds gays sick and how he'd punch one in the face if he knew one and blah blah blah urgh its like being slashed with a knife. Just standing next to him and being condemned -.-

/rant over

 

just like my mom. She says allot of bad things about gay people and my step brother said he would kill one if he saw them:icon_sad: :tears:
so i just have to sit back and listen to them chat and rant and then go in my corner and think over and ask myself questions like... why i am attracted to men? is it what was intended? does anyone else in my family have gay fetish? does God like me? i haven't gotten to the stage where i cry about it yet but it makes me very depressed and i sometimes feel like killing but. I have a plan, one to take revenge that is so clean not even Listerine could beat it...it's called: the act of revenge :evil:
where i am already up for valedictorian for graduation, grow up, become 10 times as powerful as my dad is then TAKE OVER MY COUNTRY!!!*muhohahahaha*:goodevil: :icon_lol: ....(please, as if!:icon_roll ):lol:

 

One thing i noticed in your post, don't think of being gay as a fetish. Orientation and fetishes are completely different things. Orientation means that you LOVE that gender(s) and all that shiz, where as a fetish is just a sexual desire. Being gay is, unfortunately, more than a sexual desire.
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I agree. Unfortunately.

 

The worse thing about homophobes is that for those who are in the closet...you always have to go along with them. Standing there laughing and agreeing to what they have to say. I hate that part. I hate it so much. At work I've found myself making fun of the gay guy who works with us (behind his back). It's horrible....

It's even worse when it makes you feel better inside. Like somehow you've supressed your gayness by picking on other gays.

However, I've stood up to a homophobe at work before (my old job), there was a lady who was saying how she thinks that gays don't deserve rights and how they are against the lord...and I gave her a piece of my own mind. Even if she didn't care to hear it.

And just because she used bible to support her anti gay way. The next day when she was bitching about Female rights...I told her,
"Well you can blame alot of those male supiority issue in our culture on the bible."
she responded with
"I don't want to hear it Phil."

Also I've talked to my lesbian friend's brothers about their sister...but they were being more curious then homosexual.

And from that conversation I learned that, I think the best option with dealing with homophobes is to try and get them to see the situation from your eyes (of if your in the closet...someone elses eyes). For example,
"What makes you think that I wouldn't change if I could?"
"Why does god want us to feel insecure about who we are?"

 

The best thing you can do to end homophobia amongst your friends and family is to live your life openly and honestly. Let them see the beautiful person that you are.

 

Sounds hot lol.