I'm finally past that horrible confused stage(!) I'm not ashamed of being attracted to girls like I was when I was twelve. I've told my mom about my feelings. It was really horrible and awkward. She's not super homophobic, but when I told her she said it's only a phase. She told me stories about how her boyfriend's daughter thought she was lesbian just because she loved to watch lesbian porn, but now she's happy with her boyfriend. She also told me that when she was TWELVE she also when through a phase. She said I can't be gay because I used to love playing with barbies and wearing dresses. She also said she doesn't believe bisexuality exists. She also believes that most lgbt people are diseased and only stereotypical people are "truly gay":icon_sad: I know I'm not going through a phase because I've had these feelings for my whole life. When I told my dad he was totally cool. I haven't officially told my sister, but I'm pretty sure she's overheard some conversations with my dad and step mom. I'm also out to my counselor but I don't think that really counts. I'm not out to anyone else yet because I hate awkward conversations. I've been thinking about coming out on facebook by saying I'm interested in men and women. Should I come out to more people in real life before I do that. Sorry this is so long.
Well, as far as whether or not you sohuld come out in real life before facebook, it comes down to who you know, and the society you live in. Personally, I think posting on facebook might be simpler because you can change it and it is not like many people regularly check other people information. You could also slowly start figuring out how each of your friends feel about lbgt and proceding from there. Or you could do both. What it comes down to is; would you feel better telling numerous people or choosing who knows?
Well it's great you've already told your parents, that's a big step, whether your Mom is going to deal with yet or not. Do you have any specific friends you want to tell that you really trust? I would suggest not coming out on facebook - people may feel hurt that you didn't tell them firsthand. If you have specific friends you want to tell, then you could say it if they're asking who you like and if you like a girl. If you don't like a girl at the moment, just bring it up. It can be difficult, and very awkward, but it's worth it. Just say, I have something I've been meaning to tell you for a while. Then there's not much of a way to back out of it, and it's a good startoff.
It is ultimately up to you. I would say maybe tell your sister first, even if you think she may have overheard. Then I would tell a few friends who you are close to and know would be accepting. I honestly don't think coming out on facebook is the best thing, at least not before the people who really matter know. Personally I just didn't put any preference. Other than the close friends you may tell, you can just tell others as it is actually necessary.
Oh....I'm really sorry to hear that. Unless of course you're fine with not having any friends.... Anything to do with what you're going through now?
Oh... I'm sorry. Well I would still tell your sister. I just say come out as necessary. Ha. If you want to display it on facebook you can do that as well.
