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Straight, but curious...

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by 8notewonder, Feb 22, 2012.

  1. 8notewonder

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    Hi!
    I live in a small conservative town and i go to a small conservative high school. My best friend is bisexual and started a club called PRIDE (our school's GSA). Ever since I have been going to meetings and interacting with people, I have realized that I am attracted to females and I do have sexual fantasies about them...
    I just don't know if I am bisexual/pansexual or just curious... (!)
     
  2. Katelynn

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    Hi! Welcome so much to EC! (*hug*) My advice is just focus on how you feel & dont get too hung up on trying to put a label on how you feel. I mean, how you identify isnt quite as important as how you feel anyway!
     
  3. Mirko

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    Hi there, and welcome to EC! As kiersten mentioned, try not to focus on a particular label at this point. Sometimes, when we put a label on something, while figuring things out, we end up missing a whole range of feelings, attractions and emotions because we have already started to make our minds up as to how we are describing ourselves. Try not to do that at this stage. It can make things a bit easier for you.

    I'd suggest that you really just explore the feelings that you are experiencing. You already a couple of clues. When you feel attracted to other girls, maybe just take a mental note of it, and try to gauge as to whether that feeling is getting stronger over time. Being part of a GSA has already helped you to get onto the path of becoming aware of your feelings. Keep talking to people, and maybe try sharing experiences or feelings. Often times, when we talk about feelings or thoughts, things start becoming clearer in our minds.

    Congrats on being part of the GSA, and having already gotten this far! :slight_smile:
     
  4. silverhalo

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    Hey welcome to EC, congratulations on being part of the GSA, as the others have said, dont worry about the labels just go with the flow and see how you get on.