So it took me thirty-some odd years to figure out I'm gay. I came to terms with it. Came out to my husband, brothers, mom, friends & daughter. They have come to terms with it. I discussed my plan to leave my husband after our daughter finishes high school... and now, after all that, I am fantasizing about this guy. What the hell?!
Well you cant control who you like, I wouldnt stress about it, just fantasize about who you like, you can rethink the situation when your daughter finishes high school. Perhaps it is just your mind having a panic about what it thinks you want.
I second this. Labels are only helpful to describe current behavior - if they start dictating our behavior and/or making us feel bad about things we naturally enjoy, then the labels are being counterproductive. If you have time, then use it. You can figure out what to do with your husband and other issues in the meantime.
