The last four years I have been struggling with isolation and the fear to talk about my feeling from last relationship. My last relationship was both physical and emotional abusive. I did not know who I could trust after we broke up. I tried support group but my ex found and threatened me because they were volunteer for group. I tried talk to friend but everything I said to they seemed to go back to my ex. It was every hurtful. It was ever dark time in my life, I shut down and thought the only way to protect myself was to isolate myself people. Today I realize I chose the best path at that time and know I am looking to grow as a person. I am not sure how to open up to people or how to make friends. Does anyone have any advise or know of a support group that would be helpful?
Well EC is a good place to start. You could try taking up some new hobbies which might help you make friends, or are there any LGBT groups in the area? I am not saying you are looking to get in a new relationship but you can make friends. It might be worth trying to find a different support group or a therapist that specialises in abusive relationships just to help you as you rebuild everything.
I agree, Have you heard of Meetup.com? That is one that I use to find groups that I can make friends with. As for being able to connect with people again, or as partner specifically, it would be good to seek a good therapist to help you deal with some of the past. It could be easy for you to not be able to connect as deeply with someone because of whats happened in the past, and kind of irrationally hold them accountable (so to speak). I think that you are doing better already, considering that you are able to express yourself on EC, I just think there's a little bit more work to do until you are ready. Everything will be ok, you deserve everything good in this world, including happiness.
