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in the closet

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by gingerlugo, Mar 7, 2012.

  1. gingerlugo

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    Is it possiable to meet someone while still being in the closet or am I just screwed???
     
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    Not impossible but less likely. Its also less likely that the relationship will be a meaningful and healthy one. Why dont you want to come out of the closet?
     
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    yes and no, some people don't want to be involved with someone in the closet, but others are sympathetic and understanding, though it certainly narrows your options
     
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    Its definately possible it just has a few complications but that doesnt mean it is a complete non starter. What are your reasons for not wanting to come out?
     
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    Man, I ask the same question a lot. I really want something other than just a quick encounter but it is very difficult to approach. I can just hear someone shouting "You Want To Do What!!!" Talk about a mood killer
     
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    Not being out at all will make it difficult, it'll be easier for people who are out to some people, is there nobody you could come out to who would be supportive and respect that coming out is your journey not their 'experiment'.
    For instance both of my past girlfriends have been IN the closet to their fam, but out to their friends or some of their friends.
     
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    I haven't come out yet because I just started to come to terms with my sexuality. I's kinda of hard to come out to the people that are close to me because they are so closed minded I don't think they will take me serious. I want to start coming out to people that are more open and understaning first, then make my way to telling everyone but I don't have the right people to make my first steps to.
     
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    It's possible but you have to either be really lucky or have a friend who knows some other girls who may need a girlfriend.