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Re: Support and Advice Resources

Well first of all thats unfortunate.
This is a battle you need to stand firm and be assertive of who you are. There are various forms of support out there.

Have you got trustworthy and compassionate friends whom you can confide with? That kind of emotional support can be lifesaving sometimes. If not, some of us are here available for verbal advice. That is only the mental aspect however unfortunately.

Until you can be independant I do not think you may be able to really separate from your parents.

Another thing I find useful is to read quotes, from previous successors at life. Not necessarily from homosexuals, but you can find that the quotes can be inspirational and encouraging because they urge you to be yourself and really know that from within, because no one else can have control over yourself besides you.

for example: People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within."
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Ignorance is a bliss, however use apathy well. Block out the accusations of others, the identity they try to force onto you and do so in a harmonious way, violence and aggression is devastating mentally and physically.

There really is no fight I believe, there is just being yourself and having people who disagree and try to change it. But change only happens when you let it.

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." - Eleanor
Roosevelt

when I was sad I made a collage of these quotes that I stuck behind my exercise book. It was years later when I found them again and they can be reassuring when there is noone there, because they are the voices of past lives who figured out to live a good life and is trying to pass on the message.

There are various other things you can do to HELP YOURSELF. Sometimes it feels that we need the support of others to get through challenges but what it really comes down to is YOU, YOURSELF. Teach yourself to be more confident and self reliant. The supportive friends are complements, but it is crucial to have a strong sense of identity.

You can give a person a fish to relieve them from starvation for a day. But you can also teach them how to catch a fish to relieve them from starvation for a lifetime.

We can support you and provide a shoulder to cry on and gifts of cyber hugs, but we also need YOU to be strong.

The greatest oak alive was once a little nut who held it's ground.