She wants me to spend the night...

Its a tough one, is this girl straight, bi or curious? How did she react when she found out you liked her?

 

you can spend the night if you want to but only spend the night as friends and not hoping anything is going to happen. also, she doesnt know you like her and if she is straight, why toture yourself. personally we all want alone time with our crushes but if the crush is straight is that really going to help us or will it make us like them even more while all the while knowing its not going to happen?

she seems to liek you as a friend. if you can just be friends with her maybe try and do that. also if u decide to come out to her its always great to come out to a close friend so start building a friendship and see what happens.

 

I say go... Because lets say she isnt interested in you... You don't want to lose the friendship because of a crush. Plus, there's always the chance she is interested, either way you'll most likely get your answer when you stay the night! Don't push things though, unless you're getting the vibe she wants you too. Just don't be nervous! You don't want to offend her on any way. I say take the chance, that's what life's all about right?!

 

Yeah my mom won't let me spend the night with any girl that I'm with or she knows I like either...

 

I think you're answering your own question.

If you don't feel 100% good about this, then don't do it. If you're out to her and she knows you like her, then you already have your answer if you're being invited to spend the night. Plus, there's the issue of your mom - if something happens with this girl and you end up dating, you might not want this to be your mom's first impression of this person.

If you really want further confirmation, tell her you want to go over but your mom won't let you because she's aware of the situation. This will give her a chance to voice how she feels about it, and you. And if she actually likes you, missing one sleepover won't make any difference.

EDIT: I was assuming that your mom was cool with you being gay, and just didn't want you to be in that position. If that's not the case, of course, then it's a different story. Just wanted to make sure here.

 

As awkward as this would be, I might ask your friend about it to... clarify things? Then I would ask your mom and reassure her that it's just a friend thing and she doesn't have interest in girls IF that's the case. I mean, you obviously could lie either way, but don't. Because that would be bad.

If I were you, though, I might just be worried that your feelings, or the fact that your mom knows your feelings towards her, might get in the way of your friendship. And if things progressed to the point where that really was a problem I would talk to your mom about it and hopefully she would be understanding.

 

What's the worst that could happen?
What's the best that could happen?

 

If you're getting this nervous about it, you probably should get out of it. You don't seem like you really want to, like it would be more stressful than fun. If that's a wrong impression I'm getting, then you should ask your mom to go. But stress isn't good for friendships or sleepovers or relationships. If you don't want to go or aren't allowed to go, I would just tell her that you can't make it this time or that your mother doesn't want you to, and try to find another time when you'll be less worried.

 

Honestly, I think you should go. If she thinks of you as just a friend, it will just be as normal as any other sleepover. If she likes you as more, well you like her back, so what's the problem with that? A lot of times we over think things that are pretty simple. Tell your mom that you're just friends, and that she's straight, because as far as you know she is. I don't see why she'd feel uncomfortable about you having a sleepover with a friend.

 

I think you should go but expect nothing more than watching movies with a good friend. If she does like you then that would be an added bonus right?
However if you really dont want to go then cant you just tell her your Mum wont let you go because you recently came out to her or something?

What are you scared is going to happen?

 

I would get out of it. People cancel all the time. I would just be honest, no beating around the bush. You can say that you don't feel comfortable yet sleeping over at a girl's home after just coming out, especially since she apparently knows you have a crush on her. Even if she doesn't know, saying you don't feel comfortable is totally fine.

Also, bi-curious is a mess. One of my friends who is 150% straight also just makes these weird remarks with me too. It's like they're just imagining what it would be like and somewhat messing with you for their own amusement, like it's an unexplored fantasy. Usually nothing comes out of it except pain on your end.

So yeah, as others said above, no shame in getting out of it.

 

I still say go for it!!! You're over thinking it too much

 

Thats cool if she really likes you there will be more opportunities.