So I had empty closets, everyoneisgay and Hannah Hart's twitter up on my laptop. I just closed it and went to dance (I mean it's my laptop). I didn't exit out of anything or lock it because no one uses it. So I was at dance and my aunt texted me and said, "hey can I use your computer?" I just didn't reply because I mean really if I was like NO then she would obviously wonder why not, therefore; I just didn't respond. I came home and *right away* she says, "funny thing my computer ended up working just fine, what's up?anything new?how are you?" really fast. Then a little while later she was like, "I love you. You are always on that computer on facebook or something and you are always smiling. Kids these days." I feel like she got on my laptop anyway even though I didn't say she could. What should I do? Obviously part of the issue is that she actually got on my laptop (allegedly) without me saying she could (not like she paid for it). The real issue is though that I AM NOT out to her and I wasn't planning on being...
Do you want her to know or care if she knows? I think you should ask her if she ended up using your laptop or not. It kind of sounds like she's trying to cover for going on and seeing everything. She may of just thought it wouldn't be a big deal and went on anyways.
Is it wrong if I laughed at this ? Anyway, your aunt sounded so sweet and seems she cares about you, so I don't think it's a problem if she used your computer and found out that you are gay (or questioning?). It's not like she didn't on purpose. And believe me, it could have been a lot worst than that. Let's just say that when I was younger, I never used to clean my web history because I didn't even knew what that was. I can't imagine anyone seeing 'anything', so nowadays I just pretend that never happened :S.
Tell her to please be totally honest with you, and ask her if she went on your computer. Obviously I don't know her so I can't know how her behavior is normally, but from what you typed it sounded like she was acting a little strange. Maybe she saw everything and doesn't know if she should bring it up or not...so honestly the only thing you can do is ask.
It sounds like she probably saw what you had on your computer, put two and two together, and doesn't have a problem with it. But seeing as how she doesn't know who else knows, if anybody, she probably doesn't want to force anything out of you. Respecting your space so you can figure things out, etc. However, she sounds awfully curious, but in a good way, so you might want to think about weather you should let her into the loop or not. Maybe ask your mother or brother for advice on weather or not you should? In the end, just do what you feel ready for and what feels right to you.
I would ask her if she used your laptop. If she had, it sucks, but there have been worse reactions. I was always paranoid about people finding anything on my computer. When I was like 11 or 12, my stepfather got onto my account on my grandmother's computer and found a whole bunch of gay porn (that my creep of a cousin was looking at, I later found out) in the history. I got into a ton of trouble over it - as I wasn't about to say I wasn't interested in guys at all and certainly not watching two go at it - and after that I never left anything up.
As far as I see it you have 2 options. 1. Ignore it ever happened, pretend you didnt notice here acting strange, it looks to me like she is never going to bring it up, so you could carry on as if nothing happens. 2. Even though you werent planning to come out to her you could use it as an opportunity, I mean sounds like if she did look at your laptop she would be supportive. You could say you are sorry you didnt reply but you didnt see the message come through but its fine if she used your laptop, and then she might own up.
Another option is to try and check thoroughly the computer itself to see if it was doing anything while you were away. Probably the simplest and least system-dependent (but probably the most time-consuming, and not always reliable) option is to search* for any files with last modification dates that are within the time you were away. Especially in folders like your account's temp folder and browser cache. There are other things you can try, but they require more computer-savvy to do and more knowledge of the exact software used to recommend. And it's generally a good idea to just keep machine password locked as a matter of course, while not being particularly paranoid or furtive about it. Just say something along the lines "It's a new company policy that all my computers must have a password, and I shouldn't tell it to anyone" if anyone asks. Chances are this is a real company policy if your job is even remotely white-collar. *F3 key while you're viewing the desktop on Windows machines.
You can check your internet history (and do what weirdnessmagnet said). I agree with silverhalo about your options.
