I think today's the day

Take a deep breath....and start talking.

My first person I came out to I practically had an entire script in my head. It got easier after that. Point is, you may want to consider how you want to start the conversation. I technically started mine drunk.....I got a 'do over' later on in which I started it by saying "I'm bisexual** I'm sorry it's taken me this long to say this to you, but, my sexual orientation has always been a confusing and personal thing for me..."

I'd also do it early in the conversation; depending on the closeness to the friend, it could lead to a couple hours of relieving conversation. Since things are likely to go well, you will likely find yourself wanting to get a lot of things out and off of your back. So, don't do it just before you're parting ways for the day or you'll just sit and over analyze the conversation and feel less than fulfilled.

Find a place where you are both comfortable and you feel secure. There's nothing worse than trying to talk about something intimate and the table behind you is making you paranoid or your waiter picks bad times to stop by.

HAVE WATER (or something to drink) - I personally got BAD cotton mouth when I first came out. It makes things much better.

Good luck and we'd love to hear how it goes.

** - I'm slowly accepting that I may just be gay; but, I have conflicts in my head that I'm still working past. Honestly, I hate labels....but that's a different thread.

 

I have only come out to one person but from my experience I'd just say take your time, don't rush what you want to say and don't be tempted to waiver if that person questions you. Oh and the biggest one be be proud of yourself as it takes a lot of courage :icon_bigg it can be unbelievably nerve wrecking but even one it's just one person who knows it's an amazing feeling good luck (*hug*)

 

Most speeches start off with a joke.

 

Personally I wouldn't recommend the speech approach. I tried that my first time and fell apart. Thinking about what you would like to say in general wouldn't hurt though.
Good luck!! It's so great that you have such an awesome friend you can tell.

 

I like the joke. I wouldn't script it either, though it might be easier to start with that one-liner. I did it flippantly and in passing to my flippant brother and it worked really well. I didn't do a script, especially because I would clam up if I over thought it. You got this! =)

 

If you're scripting, just go so far as something to open the conversation. Keep it brief. Plan as far as getting out the 'reveal', and then stop. Scripting the whole conversation adds stress on you to keep it going the way you planned, and often it won't go that way anyway, so why stress yourself out?

The joke is a good idea. If you're close and that's your personality, he's sure to understand. It also indicates that you're not super uncomfortable with it either. Good luck!

 

I won't be of any use here, just want to say that I find all of this really helpful. Chickened out when I wanted to tell my best friend yesterday so this definitely helps me come out to him next time I see him. Especially the scripting part, I tend to script everything.

OP, good luck!

 

Congratulations!

I have always found it shocking how hard it really is. Even when you know the person you're talking to is going to be accepting, it can just stick in your throat and refuse to come out.

I'm glad you have a friend that's so understanding.

 

Awesome! I echo Ianthe, it's amazing as to how hard it is to come out and how easy it ended up being after you reflect on it.

Hope you stick around the forum.

 

Congrats!!! Your first one!
It's so weird how everything seems to just shut down on you isn't it? That's what happened with my first one, and now I'm thinking that letter I wrote seems even better an idea.

 

Good luck! You must be on a roll!