I'm confused... Is going down on a girl/guy considered a sexual act? Therefore, one is not a virgin anymore after doing so? Or is it doing anything without clothes :S ? Even if no physical stimulation to yourself comes from your partner(s)?
There are just as many answers to the question "What is sex?" as there are kinds of sexual activities. I've never heard a good argument for any one definition being the best of all of them, so the best answer I can give to "What is sex?" is "What do you think counts as sex?" I personally define sex as anything with a high risk of STI transmission if you don't use protection, but use whatever definition seems most fitting to you.
Basically, if you feel like you've lost virginity, you did lose virginity. Any "tab A and slot B" or "did any of you cum" strict definitions are pointless lawyering. (Neither happened when I and my first GF lost ours. We were still most definitely having sex. )
Yea I feel like it's whatever you want it to be. I consider what you mentioned sex, just like I consider the woman who's on top is having sex. For me it's more about vulnerability and pleasure than about penetration.
It's whenever you feel you lost your virginity. Some people think any contact down there with the other person's body anywhere is sex (handjobs, ...) and some people think it needs to be full out penetration (heterosexual). Especially when it comes to gay sex, there's no set thing, it's whenever you feel you lost your virginity. Rape is the exception, since it wasn't of your consent, that doesn't count.
like many have said, there is no strict rule book when it comes to sex. if you liken virginity to innocence, then once you've engaged in any adult-like sexual activity you're really not very virginal. if your definition of virginity loss is the traditional act of reproductive sex, well then i'm going to be a virgin forever.
If anyone needs a partner for demonstrating purposes ... I'm here. You know ... to help ... demonstrate. :icon_bigg Just sayin':eusa_danc
Yeah...after all the posts here, I guess its more a personal definition. I think losing virginity is more about penetration...but then that would make female homosexual sex ..not sex? :eusa_doh: but yeah, nice example xD, still..by my definition you are not a "virgin forever" ... I think "1st kiss", or "1st time sex" is extremely symbolical...because it feels like any other kiss or sexual act, doesn't it? (!)
Non-penetrative sex is still sex, in my opinion. And in my experience, when people argue otherwise, it's because, for some reason, they want to continue considering themselves virgins even though they are frequently engaging in sexual acts. However, lesbian sex often involves penetration of some kind, often by the hands or tongue. It does not, of course, involve a penis (at least, not an organic one). If you think there has to be a penis involved for it to be "real sex," then, yeah, lesbian sex "wouldn't count." And virginity is, as Mogget has said, a totally meaningless idea. It is not a real thing, but an abstract and imaginary concept. It exists only in the minds of people.
If im a prolific watcher of porn but never have been intimate with anyone, does that mean mentally im not a virgin?
no it just means you need to keep a good supply of kleenex near the computer! :lol: I think people here have it right. If you don't feel you've acted in a way that means you've lost your virginity, then you probably haven't I was sexually abused when I was 5 and when I was 8, and I never felt that made me not a virgin
