One of my best guy friends has told me he's in love with me. I don't have any feelings for him that go beyond friendship, and I'm 95% sure I'm gay. He texts and calls all the time, and is begging me to give him a chance. I've told him my feeling and he just doesn't get it!!! I can't tell him the real reason I won't date him because its not safe in this small southern town to be gay. We are going to prom together because I didn't feel comfortable going with anyone else, and I just keep breaking his heart over and over again. He told my best friend (who I have very strong feelings for and have to hide them b/c she's straight) that he could make me fall in love with him. Idk if I should just give up and be in a relationship I know I'm not gonna me happy in. There's no chance of me being with a girl till I graduate next year. Any suggestions would be great!
Don't be in a relationship with someone who you don't feel the same way about, it's not fair to him to be with someone who doesn't love him that way, and it's definitely not fair to you either. It's your choice if you want to go to prom with him, but you should be sure he knows it's just as a friend date. Don't lead him on, he'll just fall more for you. If he's one of your best friends, why not tell him you're gay? I'm sure he'll understand, even if he isn't happy about it. At least he knows that you have no chance together as a couple, and he doesn't keep trying. If he's a real friend he's not going to tell anyone else in your town. It sucks liking straight girls, I know. But you will meet a girl who will feel the same way as you soon enough.
I think you should tell your guy friend that you're gay, unless you think he'll tell everyone. Since he's one of your best friends, he should respect your sexuality and it'll stop the heartbreaking. I go to a conservative Catholic boys boarding school, so I'm not in the best position to come out either, but waiting (at least for me) won't be too hard. If you think you have the courage, you should definitely come out. The worst people can do is ostracize you, and you're leaving (presumably) when you graduate next year. Would your parents support you?
I would definitely say that you shouldn't be in a relationship with someone you have no feelings for. I can say this from personal experience. I had a good friend in high school since freshmen year, and she loved me all of high school. She had asked me out a couple times but I always came up with some excuse, like I wasn't ready for a relationship and stuff like that. After a rather desperate attempt at getting me to date her senior year, I said yes. Long story short, it just wasn't right; I didn't like her while she loved me, and obviously she was the wrong sex =P If you date him, you will be unhappy, and he will end up being heart broken. If you feel like you can trust him, the best option would be to tell him the truth.
Yea, wouldn't date him. Best option is to tell him the truth and come out to him. If you don't feel comfortable doing that I would at least continue to draw a clear friend zone line.
How do you feel about breaking his heart? What do you think are the options available to you and the potential outcomes of these?
You shouldn't date him. Any of the difficulty you are having now will only be a LOT worse if you actually date the guy.
You should explain to him that he is making you very uncomfortable, and that if he doesn't back off a bit you wont hangout with him any more. Tell him you really like him a lot, but as a friend, and nothing more.
Thanks for the help y'all! My sister knows I'm gay, and I'm positive my mom will support me. I'm terrified of what my father will think though. I've decided I'm not going to date him. I just hope he realizes that friendship is alll he is going to get soon. I don't want to break his heart anymore than I already have. And I just don't have the guts to tell him the truth, because there's a good chance he'll get mad and tell someone.