Soo...where to begin. Well im the winter I joined our school's bowling team (now being a freshman, I was really just trying things out). Initially it was so that I could spend more time with my best friend A, who I never really get to hang out with. Eventualy though i became friends with this Junior, N. We've hung out a few times. Walking from school into town after school. Just recently I came out to N, he's homophobic but he's handling it fine. Now just recently A has been getting jealous of me and N hanging out, granted the reason I've been hanging out more with N is because A has been at Drama like every night for the past month. Now N knows A, less than I do but he still knows him. He realizes how annoying and, trying not to be mean, kinda boring sometimes. We both text him sometimes, me usually every day, and he's a pretty boring texter. So there's the background, now onto the situation. The day before we went on Spring Break he basically just flipped absolute s#!t on me. Completely out of character for him. He was saying how he was all jealous of N, thinking that N is now my best friend, he also said he wants more than just one best friend. I got kimd of angry from that. We didn't talk for two days straight after that (it was especially awkward since we sit next to each other in one class). We did cool things down and now he seems more fun, more libearated. He jokes around more ith me, talks about porn and d*** size and other random...sometimes gay s#!t. It honestly makes him more fun. My problem is, I talk with some guys online and they say that they fool around with their best friends, and now I kind of wanna do that stuff with A. (A and N are both straight by the way) My questions: do guys actually fool around with their best friends? How can I bring that up to A without him being weirded out? How can I handle a little crush I have on N? N, A, and I are all having a sleepover together this summer, we're even gonna watch porn, how can I not feel awkard in that situation, even if I really want to do stuff like that with both of them? Thanks for reading :icon_bigg My questions: ---------- Post added 8th Apr 2012 at 05:52 PM ---------- Anyone out there?
We kind of have the same situation like my best friend getting jelous of me getting close to the guy i like but now it's alll messed up, well 1st things 1st you have crush on N but u know he's straight that's a bad idea you'll only end up with lots of hoping so i guess my advice is try not to fall for him that much and eventually get over him as he is straight...and watching porn with 2 guys and ur BI wow thats really awkward and N knows your Bi so if he starts laughing while seeing you watch porn with him (sorry my imagination :s) and it's a bit unfair on A as how long have u been best friends? annnd i heard some do just not together together like touching each other like i think some really close friends watch porn and masterbate together.... and if you do try fool around with one of them i think it would lead to total wierdness between u both well that's what i think....it depends on how close u guys are i guess
Well its not like a huge crush. Theres really only one guy that I've completely fallen for, granted idk if hes gay, bi, or straight. Both of them know that I'm bi. And if N would laugh at either one of us, itd be A. The whole thing is just awkward in general. Two freshman guys having a sleep over with a junior guy. But yeah, I was meaning by the whole fool around, watching porn and jacking off together, not like full out sex. Weve been friends since like 7th grade, actually end of 6th grade, things hadnt been so rough with us before this year though.
Well I was In the same situation with my friend, he was extremely closeted and kind of a douchebag now that I think of it.. Me and him fooled around, but he was "straight" lool. Depends how you bring it up i guess.
Like tonight he was basically saying 'I really just wanna get laid, so ik what its like.' And he meant full out sex, with a girl. I brought up him getting a bj, trying to hint at me. And he was just like he would, as long as the person was a girl. Then wewere joking about me giving him a bj. So as far as I can see, he has no interest in fooling around. But he'll openly talk about jacking off with me
Its best to be a realist in these situations.. Because you CAN go too far and en d up making it awkward, I gave the douchebag half my v card and now we dont talk soo yeah its best not to give it up to an asshole with no true feelings for you . Hopefully your first time is with someone you love and care about, boy or girl.
Yeah,irdk. I mean I already had a bj from a guy before. A knows I have too. Granted he doesn't know I've given one too. I don't want things awkward between us. So i definetely won't push it
I may have missed the bigger point to thi but if ur bi don't watch porn with other guys. I did that for a while with a close friend and I just snuck peaks at him jacking off and then I started thinking about him... A lot. And that's really crappy when they're straight and you start wanting to do stuff with them. My two cents is don't start on that slippery slope cuz it just leads to heartache.
As fun as that might sound . . . It is a TERRIBLE idea to watch porn or jack off with straight guys around. All that will do is make you want more. And that is something neither of them can give you. Not only that but you are almost guaranteed to make things weird between yourself and N and A. There is no good outcome here. What you need to do is have self-control. As much as that sucks, it is way better if you want to preserve your friendships.
We were just planning on watching porn, not jacking off. N told both of us that hed kick both our asses if we did. He's straight and a homophobe. He's watched porn with other guys before when he was at states for bowling. He felt nothing wrong with it. As for jacking off with A, it's more just wanting to be closer to my best friend, and wanting to know how big his dick is. (No feelings, just crushes) Let it be known, I have no feelings for N or A. A's too dorky and he's like my brother. N's a homophobe so I know nothing would ever happen.
crushes lead to feelings especially if you explore them...im just saying it could lead to more pain than you think it will.