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Is it normal to feel like this?

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by Sayu, Apr 15, 2012.

  1. Sayu

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    Basically, from time to time I feel a bit depressed that I am lesbian (well, I am still questioning, but I think I am). It's not because I don't accept myself, not at all, I am ready to face this, but I just feel that I want to be gay, not lesbian. I like a lot of boys, but I can't have a relationship with them, because I would only do so if I were a boy... I don't want to change my body by a surgery, but sometimes I just really want to be a boy. And not a heterosexual boy :rolle:

    Is it normal to feel like that? Because I'm starting to think I'm a weirdo... :confused:
     
  2. secretguyX

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    Never think your feelings aren't normal! They completely are. It sounds like you may be bi-gender - switching from female attributes to male attributes from time to time. But feeling depressed is really bad. Have you thought of going to a counselor, and talking about this with one? It may really help you. But you're not at all a weirdo!
     
  3. Lewis

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    As stated above, feelings are always normal, they're the most natural thing about us. I can't say I've ever felt like that though, but that's not to say it's not 'normal'. You're not a weirdo at all! Just let your feelings guide you.
     
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    Thanks, I guess you're right, guys.
     
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    Honestly I have known quite a few girls who felt like what you described, though it sounds to me like you're still discovering who/what you are.
    I wish you lots of fun and pleasure doing so!!
     
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    Yes, I'm questioning, but fun? Seriously? :eek: It's torturing me! :bang: :tears:
    I want to know who I am :tears:
     
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    Don't worry, I have had the same feelings in the past. I desperately wanted to be a gay guy. Not date straight guys, I wanted to date gay guys and obviously the only way to do that would be to become a gay guy. So, you're completely normal :slight_smile: For me, that was a few years ago when I was around 15 or so.