I think too much!

Ah, I know exactly what you mean. I over-think literally everything.
Sometimes when I get too stressed (usually over nothing) I think about what actually I'm stressed over. This may contradict the over-thinking part. But actually thinking about thinking may help.
When you feel stressed try just sitting down and take a feel deep breaths.
I realize I'm not much help since I'm in the same situation Here is a site that could help you. <3

 

I have been through what you are talking about, and I hope I can give you some insight as to why this is happening.

We are creatures of connection, bio-neurologically thats how we are set up, it is why we interact, and how we find completeness. However, we all posses a feeling which is unraveling to connection called shame. We all have it, and the only people who dont experience it hold no capacity for human emotion at all. It (shame) also plays an interesting roll to connection. It is the constant feeling of not being "enough" (Smart enough, attractive enough, skinny enough, tall enough, straight enough, ect). Shame also wears many faces, anger, hate, resentment, addiction, ignorance, ect, and often comes with two separate responses: You're not good enough and if you are able to trudge past that feeling then it is Who do you think you are?

Shame is also interesting is that the less we talk about it, the more we seem to possess, and inherently the more we talk about it, the less we seem to possess. Which indicates being vulnerable, and being able to talk about the things that make us shameful. however I will tell you one other thing about shame: People whom experience shame who have nobody they can be vulnerable to, often have one thing in common: they "numb" themselves. They try to take shame, and sadness, anger, addiction, ignorance and all the other bad stuff and say "I dont want to feel this", however not realizing that they also numb love, joy, creativity, happiness, and everything good as well.

Often, from what I myself have experienced, things will get worse before they get better. So to bring this to a conclusion, perhaps now you should be asking a question that is intended for one person only, How can I love myself? Because truly, you cannot love others whole heartedly, and feel true happiness without first having the ability to love and accept yourself, and take the things that you see as imperfections and burdens and see them as gifts.

With love,

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I also researching Brene Brown, she has a few books based on connection, and shame based research, and how it effects our lives. And also Debbie Fords book, "The Gifts of Imperfection"

 

I know how you feel... when I was younger, I was diagnosed with OCD, so my thoughts constantly run wild...and it doesn't help me in my journey to figuring out my sexuality. Seeing a therapist helps... but just sitting and breathing helps a lot...or watching a tv show or movie to get your mind off of it... just telling yourself to "change the channel" in your mind and think of something else. WE WILL GET BETTER!

 

And he writes as though he were much older. Loved the post, TyRawr.

 

I've been feeling much the same way. I've been trying to find a job and pass my certification exam for something like the past 9 or 10 months, but I've been caught in this vicious cycle in which stressing out leads to procrastination leads to failure leads to more stressing out...etc. Every time I do something or go somewhere, I'm dual-minded--i.e. I want to do this/be here because it takes my mind off studying, but I don't want to do this/be here because I should be at home studying. So, much like you, I'm in a constant state of near-panic that's driving me bananas.

I also like what TyRawr wrote, and don't have much to add except that I completely agree. Do not practice self-pity. Embrace your imperfections as a part of who you are; don't let others define you by your imperfections, and don't let others make you feel that your imperfections alone define you.

 

I totally messed up the book reference, haha, Its Brene Brown's book " The Gifts of Imperfection," and Debbie Ford's book "The Dark Side of The Light Chasers."

And I am glad I could help you. I had a very difficult upbringing, and as a result had to grow up very quickly. Most people cant believe that I am 18, but yes, I am

Sending love,

 

Ugh I feel like this applies to me. I feel like I can't get close to anyone. I feel fairly numb. So many things are going right in my life and yet I feel like everyone else is enjoying their lives more than me. Most of the time I am just inside my own head thinking about things that I wish I could talk to people about but I never do. The problem is that I really don't feel anything is wrong with me except my interactions with others. I can't connect with people because I am ashamed that I can't connect with people. I have some close friends who I enjoy being with but I feel like the inferior member of the relationship. I look at those relationships that were built when I was younger and say to myself as an adult that I probably couldn't make friends with them now if I had to. This is the kind of shit I wish I could talk about, but honestly no won wants to listen to such an abstract despressing thought process in real life. I might check out those books.

 

I always over think things.

Whats particularly funny is that I am more concerned about things I say on the Internet now, than when I was a teenager. Simply because I have seen the power of words, and would hate to think that something I've said out of anger has hurt someone I may never meet. Once my venting is over, its out there, it isn't coming back, and whatever happens is out of my control.

Sometimes I even hold onto things people have said to me, and after over thinking it, it makes me chuckle to think that I even care in the slightest about an online interaction, good or bad, because as it goes, its just words on the Internet.

Similarly are my feelings with friends. I over think my jests, my compliments, and my complaints when I express them, as I do not wish to give off the wrong energy, or leave a bad impression with someone.

I know that I have anger issues as per a long history of crappy people who I've let go, and some I am in the process of ejecting from my life. Yeah, we all over think things.