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I'm gonna do it.

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by inevertoldyou, Apr 20, 2012.

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  1. inevertoldyou

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    I've been slowly working up the courage for 3+ days to come out to my friend who just recently moved away. She knows somethings up because she said she noticed "i've been distant". So screw it, i'm just gonna do it. Today. Like now. I just sent her the message. I feel like I'm gonna freaking die.
     
    #1 inevertoldyou, Apr 20, 2012
  2. Lewis

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    Go for it! Good luck, you'll be fine! :slight_smile:
     
    #2 Lewis, Apr 20, 2012
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    Way to go :thumbsup:! Hope it goes well!
     
    #3 Vesper, Apr 20, 2012
  4. inevertoldyou

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    :thumbsup:

    that went way better than expected. I feel so much better now.
     
    #4 inevertoldyou, Apr 20, 2012
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    Congrats dude! *hug*
     
    #5 Waffles, Apr 20, 2012
  6. inevertoldyou

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    Thanks :grin: I feel alot better now. I've been trying to tell her for three days and it was starting to get to me. I'm now up to 6 people. And all y'all.
     
    #6 inevertoldyou, Apr 20, 2012
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    Congratulations! :slight_smile:
     
    #7 Lad123, Apr 20, 2012
  8. inevertoldyou

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    this is the paraphrased conversation, because it went on for like 1 1/2 hours

    me - I'm not sure how to say this, but I'm pretty sure I'm bisexual
    her - ***insanely long amazing text that made me cry*** ending with I love you forever and no matter what and I am totally here for you
    me - ***cries***
    her - why the hell would I judge you for being who you are?!?!?!
    me - **sniff**I'm really fucking happy your my friend
     
    #8 inevertoldyou, Apr 20, 2012
  9. Emma of Winter

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    Glad it went well. Grats! :thumbsup:
     
    #9 Emma of Winter, Apr 20, 2012
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    I'm so happy that it went so well for you!! You deserve only the best. And just a funny side note, my mom said the same thing to me about a week before I came out, that "I seem distant...." You're doing fantastic and keep up the good work!
     
    #10 NickD, Apr 20, 2012
  11. inevertoldyou

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    I don't have a "next person" planned. She's pretty much my best friend right now, so nothing further planned but I'm just so relieved it went well.
     
    #11 inevertoldyou, Apr 20, 2012
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    Well done! (*hug*)

    As for the next person, there is no rush. And it will be amazing just having a good friend you can be open with.

    By the way, I also got the "You seem distant" comments.
     
    #12 Dalmatian, Apr 20, 2012
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    awwwww that's sweet! Congratulations for telling her!! bet you feel relieved now!

    Wish i had your courage too so i could tell to my last close-friend (who's a bit homophobic)!!!
     
    #13 Valyrian, Apr 21, 2012
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    Congrats!! I'm glad it went like this! :icon_bigg
     
    #14 timo, Apr 21, 2012
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    Really happy for you :slight_smile:
     
    #15 Lewis, Apr 21, 2012
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    ^this
     
    #16 cscipio, Apr 21, 2012
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    Grats, bro. Even though I have no intention of coming out or the like to my family and friends, I have had my parents telling me I've been looking 'down', and my best friend has been trying to find out why I've been 'off' over the past month or so. Guess the people close to you can always tell.

    Good luck with your future coming-outs and hope you get the responses you deserve!
     
    #17 Lark, Apr 21, 2012
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    CONGRATULATIONS! That's amazing man! :grin:
     
    #18 Maxis, Apr 21, 2012
  19. inevertoldyou

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    What I love most of all is that she doesn't act different now!!
     
    #19 inevertoldyou, Apr 21, 2012
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    I'm so happy for you! :slight_smile: Sounds like you have a great friend.
     
    #20 IvoryKate, Apr 22, 2012
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