Please help, I accidentally outed myself? Really scared?

Step one... Take a deep breath

Step two... I think you should just relax. If they approach you about it, they do... if not, well then, no worries. If you think this might be a good time to come out, do so. If not explain you were just looking at your friends blog and didnt know she was a lesbian and it caught you off guard. Tell the truth...ish.....

Hope I helped....

 

I think MommaFrog gave you some good advice. As long as you're mom isn't acting different towards you I don't think you need to stress out. I don't think you outed yourself. You might have planted seeds. In the long run that might be a good thing for when you finally do decide to come out, not as much of a shocker you know?

Until you're ready though... act as if nothings happened and everythings the same its always been.

 

Gotta agree with what's already been put, you're actually in a pretty good spot right now (despite what you might think ). You've got lots of options, and neither seems like it'll end up badly.

You can take this opportunity to come out, since it seems it might be okay to do so.

Or, if you're not ready, you can selectively tell the truth to explain a story that makes perfect sense... and just omit the "I'm a lesbian" bits.

 

I agree with everyone else. You're fine. Take a deep breath.

I was actually in an even tougher spot than you. When I was like seventeen, I had downloaded a screensaver from a porn site. It wasn't the normal stuff I look at, which actually kinda made it worse... lol. I check out the screensaver, exit, and never realized that the screensaver was set as the default screen saver.

Fast forward a few hours.

I'm eating dinner and my mother (yes my MOTHER) calls me back into the computer room. She points to the screen. Ultra buff men dressed in leather are erotically flashing by. A simple question from her, "What's this?"

I've never come up with a lie so fast in my life. Ever. I think I could have won an Oscar for my performance.

For a split second - and it couldn't have been more than a second - I probably looked terrified. Yet, I was able to mask every ounce of terror that I had with seething anger. I yelled out angrily, "THAT SON OF A BITCH! I'M GOING TO KILL HIM! HE HACKED MY COMPUTER!"

My mother: "Who hacked the computer?!"

Me: "Jim!" [Already disabling the screensaver.] "He gave me those disks and told me they were the new version of windows! HE LIED TO ME! NO WONDER THEY DIDN'T WORK! THAT BASTARD!"

My mother: "Can you fix it? Can you get rid of it?!"

Me: "I don't know. Give me a few minutes, I'll see if I can get rid of it."

She leaves the room. I try and pull myself together. About ten minutes later, after I manage to expel the sheer terror.

My mother: "Could you fix it?"

Me: "Yeah. I think I fixed it. That ass, I'm going to kill him. He must think he's being funny, putting that shit on the computer."

My mother bought it, hook, line, and sinker. Thankfully, she knew nothing about computers and technology (and still doesn't). Otherwise, I would have had to have an awkward conversation about ultra buff men dressed in leather, and whether or not I was into that...

Say what you want about being open and gay, that still totally is not a conversation you want to have with your mother. :icon_lol:

 

It doesn't sound like you need to worry about anything. Your mom didn't seem to freak out, which is a good sign. All you need to do now is act like nothing's wrong, and wait till she brings up the subject. If you're still not quite ready when she does talk to you about the incident, do what MommaFrog and BudderMC suggested and tell her that you had no idea about your friend's sexuality (though if she asks you bluntly "are you gay?", perhaps it would be best just to tell her that you are).

A similar situation happened between my mom and I. While I was gone, she noticed an issue of the local LGBT magazine lying on my desk while she was tidying up my apartment; when I came home, she asked if I were gay. I told her that I wasn't, and that I was keeping track of LGBT news because I had LGBT friends; she bought my story. I wanted to say "yes", but I was too chicken.